So let me give you the broad picture. Dh and I have 2 children. DD1 is 3 ( just ) and dd2 is 11 months.
I am a SAHM asnd he works really hard, gets up at 5am every morning and doesn't get home till 6.30/7 pm each night.
He is a really hands on Dad, does laundry, does house work etc, no problem, no big deal.
DD1 is quite a spirited child, very quick tempered, loads of temper tantrums, hitting, kicking both to myself,and to other children. It has been really tough lately, well actually since dd2 has been born, i find it so intense sometimes, and have talked to Dh about it, but I find him so unsupportive.
Today, was not such a great day. He came home, aksed me how my day was, I replied, oh well, more of the same, and he asked me to elaborate.
I talked to him about how dd1 was, how it is so very hard for me to handle, and try to teach her a more acceptable way of behaving, he just seems so unsupportive of me. One of his responses was," well she doesn't act like that for me " and " you never have anything positive to say , you are always so negative " .
His facial expressions and mannerisms to me show me that he is just fed up with talking about it, or annoyed that I am bringing it up, like he doesn't want to deal with it.
I was crying this evening ( not sobbing , just a trickle ) and he just stood there on the otherside of the room looking at me.
I have mentioned to him previously a couple of times that I need support, that I need someone to tell me ( namely HIM ) to give me a hugs and tell me I am doing an awesome job. But he never has.
His response is that " well no one ever says that to me " Well, yes they do, they tell you at work, "Wow that looks great, you really have turned such and such around", and it is also seen with pay increases.
So , am I making a big deal about this in your opinion?
There are so very few people that I can easily talk to about this. I want to approach Dh again, but when I say" Hey I want to talk about something" , he gives a sigh, "Oh gosh, what ".
I am a SAHM asnd he works really hard, gets up at 5am every morning and doesn't get home till 6.30/7 pm each night.
He is a really hands on Dad, does laundry, does house work etc, no problem, no big deal.
DD1 is quite a spirited child, very quick tempered, loads of temper tantrums, hitting, kicking both to myself,and to other children. It has been really tough lately, well actually since dd2 has been born, i find it so intense sometimes, and have talked to Dh about it, but I find him so unsupportive.
Today, was not such a great day. He came home, aksed me how my day was, I replied, oh well, more of the same, and he asked me to elaborate.
I talked to him about how dd1 was, how it is so very hard for me to handle, and try to teach her a more acceptable way of behaving, he just seems so unsupportive of me. One of his responses was," well she doesn't act like that for me " and " you never have anything positive to say , you are always so negative " .
His facial expressions and mannerisms to me show me that he is just fed up with talking about it, or annoyed that I am bringing it up, like he doesn't want to deal with it.
I was crying this evening ( not sobbing , just a trickle ) and he just stood there on the otherside of the room looking at me.
I have mentioned to him previously a couple of times that I need support, that I need someone to tell me ( namely HIM ) to give me a hugs and tell me I am doing an awesome job. But he never has.
His response is that " well no one ever says that to me " Well, yes they do, they tell you at work, "Wow that looks great, you really have turned such and such around", and it is also seen with pay increases.
So , am I making a big deal about this in your opinion?
There are so very few people that I can easily talk to about this. I want to approach Dh again, but when I say" Hey I want to talk about something" , he gives a sigh, "Oh gosh, what ".