How should we react if our 22 month-old throws a ball at an older child's head?

Dear Parent:

Your daughter is only 22 months old and it's very normal to throw things,
whether out of curiosity for what happens, or out of self-preservation at
being singled out by the boy's friendly gesture. Although its normal, it
does have to be addressed. Stay calm yourself, and calmly say to your
daughter, "We don't throw balls at people!" Then, go and comfort the hurt
boy. You could also model an apology to him by saying, "I'm so sorry for my
daughter's actions. We will talk to her later." That lets the boy and his
parents know that you will address the situation and it models how to make
amends to your daughter. Later, you could tell her that being hit by a ball
hurts very much and she shouldn't do it again. She is watching you! Don't
punish her. She will learn not to throw and hit and how to make amends by
repeated actions of your respectful behaviour.

Warmly,
Judy Arnall

www.professionalparenting.ca