Cannot Unschool in My Country

Homeschooling

Naomi Aldort

Dear Naomi I'm reading your books and I belive very much what you write to be true! My kids are happy and smart (daughter is almost 2 and son is almost 3) and my biggest problem is ... everyone else being against my beliefs about parenting and education. My problem and question is: How do I manage trying to stick to attachment parenting, when I am living in a country, where unschooling is 100% illegal, where homeschooling is "almost illegal" (law is really against this althoug it is not yet banned) and where economic structure and society values are designed to force women to leave their children in daycare? There are no kids in the street or at the playground anymore. My son needs to go to kindergarden in order to meet children his age, since no one is available anymore. In my country the family as we know it has almost evaporated and I am being critisized and judged for staying at home instead of working 37 hour a week and leaving it to other women to take care of my babies. People tell me my kids are being spoiled and that i am too soft, when I maintain that they don't need to be forced to sleep over at grandma's at night and so forth. Greetings from the far north of Europe

Dear Parent,

A family from Germany was recently given permit to live in the USA because they want to homeschool. Would you consider moving to another country?

On the other hand, your country needs you to blaze a new trail. All changes start with one courageous person like you, who opens people’s eyes to new possibilities. If home schooling is somewhat possible, choose that path and enlighten other parents you meet on demanding more freedom. Stretch the rules as far as you can and stay true to yourself within the home.

Your child does not need children his own age to play with. In fact, one of the main disadvantages of school and kindergarten is the fact that children are limited to their own peers. They are all “blind” in the same spots, unable to get along or help each other grow. It is much better for a child to spend time with adults or children much older than himself, who are socially competent. He needs caring adults to be with, and maybe one older friend, ideally a home schooler.

The idea of playing with groups is school based. Children play best with one friend and in total freedom.

To give yourself strength remember to stay true to yourself and free yourself from needing others’ approval. Listen to my MP3 on staying strong in the face of relatives’ oposition: http://naomialdort.com/mp3.html. Your situation is similar and so it will help you in acting from inside rather than worrying about what others say and think.

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