By Karen Dempsey for Brain, Child: The Magazine for Thinking Mothers
When I had my first baby, over a decade ago now, I wondered how I’d strike up solid friendships with other new moms.
Looking back now, I realize how lucky I’ve been.
Here are some gestures, big and small, that can go a long way toward building a real friendship.
1. Be honest about the hard stuff. We all benefit from being real about how tough it is to be alone with a baby and find time to just use the bathroom. Don’t gloss over the lowlights.
2. But don’t be toxic. Envy, anger, and endless complaining are easy to fall into but bad for both of you. And besides, little ears are listening.
3. Make her laugh. And hope she’ll do the same for you. Having someone to laugh with is even more important when you are sleep-deprived and full of self-doubt and generally just finding your way.
4. Listen. Put your phone away. Those snippets of real-life conversations will carry you through the hours when you don’t have adult company.