New motherhood is an emotional time, but family disagreeing with your choices makes it even harder. Circumcision is a delicate topic.
When I found out we were expecting our first son, my heart flowed with joy and excitement. Soon, I encountered the circumcision topic. To be honest, it was a topic I never considered before having a son. The topic never crossed my mind. Now, it made its way into my mind and stuck there like a sharp thorn.
Ultimately, my husband and I made the decision not to circumcise our son. We felt it was the right decision, and our pediatrician supported our choice. Research made us confident in our decision, and we went on, not realizing that it would cause problems.
The Unexpected Backlash
Birth is an emotional time, and facing criticism from family members makes that time even harder. When it comes to circumcision, people tend to pick sides and refuse to believe the other could be correct.
The stories pile up. Family members make comments about the choice being wrong. The child will be” dirty,” and “his penis will likely fall off before he reaches the tender age of five.” “Shouldn’t he match his father?” The questions and snide remarks pile up like bad cards.
Facing the Disagreement
So, what are you to do when your family disagrees with your choices? I knew what I shouldn’t do, and that was to change my mind. If you are like me, your choices are not made quickly. I have to think about my choices and weigh both sides. Our children deserve our best decisions. I was not going to allow their ridicule to change my mind on such an important decision.
At first, my husband and I were furious. We evaded and chose not to spend too much time with those causing us grief. They would bring up the topic multiple times, continuing to pester us. Then, I decided to face the topic directly. I spoke to them and explained our decisions, rolling over their disagreement. I wasn’t in the mood to argue. Rather, I wanted to state my side and be done.
Ultimately, facing family disagreements led me to one decision. Your family won’t always agree with your choices, but you need to stand your ground.
The decisions you make are not up for an argument. These decisions should be met with respect and the understanding that as the parent, you are making the best choice for your family.