Mothers Who’ve Miscarried Share Their Truths About Pregnancy Loss In Heartbreaking Images

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, and recently, mothers shared in a Buzzfeed Community Roundup what they wished the world knew about miscarriage and pregnancy loss.

In the past, women didn’t share much about the baby losses they suffered. Miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal loss and even infant/toddler/child loss simply were taboo subjects that many women tucked away in the depths of their hearts and didn’t share with a world that seemed not to be interested.

In October of 1988, then-President Ronald Reagan declared October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, though, to honor the mothers and children who were often forgotten. Reagan and his former wife Jane Wyman had suffered the loss of a baby girl themselves in 1947. In recent years, breaking the silence about pregnancy and infant loss has come as the result of courageous mamas sharing their truths in platforms like Still Standing Magazine, Sharing Magazine and Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.

Recently Buzzfeed asked readers who’ve suffered miscarriages what they wanted people to know, as one in four women will have this heartbreaking experience. Here are a few things those brave women wanted people to know:

1. They don’t want to hear, “You can have other babies.” They wanted that baby.

Related: James Van Der Beek Speaks Out About Miscarriage


2. An early loss is still a loss. Hopes and dreams start instantly.


3. Milk still can come in when you miscarry; that is an insult to injury.


4. Mothers who have miscarried feel like their bodies failed their babies. They feel like failures.


5. Mourning the loss of a baby through miscarriage does not mean you are not grateful for your life’s gifts.


6. You can suffer neonatal loss and early miscarriage and they both hurt terribly, regardless of gestation.

Related: 8 Things I Learned About Getting Through a Miscarriage


7. Having more children doesn’t ‘fix it.’


8. You can lose a twin…and you never forget there were to be two.

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I posted the other pic a while back without the Bears. But just been thinking about what’s happened in the last year. I was so excited last year to be having twins. I knew it was going to be crazy with having the other kids already. But we would’ve made it work, we always do. December’s coming really fast and I don’t know how I’m going to handle it some days. December is TTTS awareness month as well as the month I lost Alec to this terrible disease. There really isn’t a lot of awareness for this disease. Most people never hear about it unless they deal with it personally some way or another. There are obgyns and doctors out there that have never heard of the disease. And some of them have even been too ignorant to help their own patients. Luckily my doctor sent me to a maternal fetal medicine center right away and they were on top of it as best as they could be. Honestly the day before we lost Alec we had a 75% chance of both babies making it. But the next morning before surgery Alec just took a turn for the worse. There will always be the what if’s, the what could I have done differently. I just hope that someway, somehow, Alec knows how much he was loved ♥️ . . . . . #tttsawareness #twintotwintransfusionsyndrome #ttts #tttssurvivorwithaguardianangel #twinlesstwin 📸 @weepingwillowphotography

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9. Miscarriage is a physical toll on your body too.

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Thankful Monday. It’s been a really difficult couple of weeks but I’m thankful for the love and support from those around me and also so grateful for the care I received from @national_health_service and @royalsurreycountyhospital. I found out at our second scan that my 2nd pregnancy failed just over 2 weeks ago and was something called a missed miscarriage 🤷🏻‍♀️ or a silent miscarriage, which makes more sense to me. I had no bleeding or cramps and up until surgery early last week, I was still having pregnancy symptoms. No one but David knew I was pregnant but keeping this a secret would have been too much to deal with. It’s hard to reach out when people don’t know what you’ve lost. It of course means people know you’re trying and that’s difficult too – some sentiments of @amy_abrahams that really echoed with me. But I’ve also come to realise how helpful it has been to me to talk and not deal with things alone or keep things bottled up. We’re coming to peace with what has happened now and have hopes that we’ll add to our little family one day. 💕 For anyone going through these difficult times, stay strong, you’re not alone ✨ . . . . . #thankfulmonday #pregnancyloss #pregnancylossawareness #miscarriage #silentmiscarriage #thankyounhs #unitedinparenthood #talkingtherapy #itsgoodtotalk #support #peace #love #amummyinsurrey

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10. It’s not mentally abnormal to grieve a miscarriage.

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