I don't even know where to start with this.
It makes me feel sick that I share genetic information with this man that is so terrible.
My parents divorced when I was a baby. He never mistreated my mother but was negligent and cheated on her which was why she left.
He never paid child support but when I was a teen my mom decided to file for unpaid back support. He paid for a few months. I got a letter and talked to him on the phone once or twice.
I knew he had other kids so the other day I did a quick google search and came up with the names of his kids. I looked for them on myspace and found them.
One is 22 and male, the other is 26 and a mother. I sent her a short message. Since then we've been corresponding. She is the one that states that he was an alcoholic, was and is a drug addict, that he beat both kids until their early teens, and that he molested and raped her for 9 years.
Obviously, she is a stranger and so I have to take what she says with a grain of salt as I do not know her character. However, she is a recent convert to Christianity (she has pictures of her baptism up on her page and quotes) so I imagine she's probably being truthful.
I'm sick to my stomach and can't let my mind wander or think in depth about what she's said because its too much to bear.
I'm not sure how to deal with this information now that I have it. I called and told my mom this morning. She was on her way to work but she was obviously very grateful that we got out when we did.
This does, however, put my childhood into perspective. My stepdad came into my life when I was 6. He was a crappy father. He is bipolar and used to say some really abusive things. He never raped me and only hit me once (other than spanking which I hate to say was pretty standard in my community and among my extended family). He did and said some awful things but my god, he never sexually violated me or bruised me.
How do you come to terms with finding out such terrible things about your biological parents!?
Mom of a 7 yr old, 4 yr old, and 1 yr old. Wow. How did that happen?