Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: Ontario, Canada
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Congratulations! My triplets are 10 months now and my eldest is 4 1/2. I remember well the anxiety about caring for three plus one. There are a bunch of great resources.
During your pregnancy, Dr. Luke's book is a wonderful resource - as is Having Twins and More by Elizabeth Noble. Simply being pregnant with triplets is a huge physical challenge. You want to take excellent care of your body to increase your likelihood of a complication-free pregnancy. Even with excellent care, you can't control everything, but you want to increase your chances of a long pregnancy. Those two books give a lot of great information.
Multiple Births Canada also has a book: Finding Our Way: Life with Triplets, Quadruplets, and Quintuplets. It is not ap, but is one of the few resources out there specifically for Higher Order Multiples.
There is an apmultiples yahoo group. I found it a very supportive group when I had time to participate. Karen Gromada used to hang out there; I don't know if she still does, but I got great advice and support from her about lactation issues.
Check out your local parents of multiples club and see how ap friendly they are and how many triplet parents are around. The two clubs closest to me have enough ap moms to make it worth my while to go to meetings, but none of the other triplet moms get to the meetings.
Think hard about what help you will want around after the birth. To breastfeed triplets, you need to be committed, supported, and helped, in addition to being lucky about how your body handles the pregnancy and how long you carry the babies. I was very late really accepting the reality that I would have three little ones and did not set up the help I needed and it really impacted the success of breastfeeding for me. You need to count on spending 24 hours a day doing nothing but feeding babies for weeks, so you will need other people to do ALL of the other work around the house.
Triplets plus one is a challenge. The reality of life after the birth will teach you what your family needs. My eldest is (and always has been) high needs, and in order to maintain my sanity and his mental health, I have needed to parent my triplets quite differently than I parented him. You will quickly discover what will be best for your family. It may not be the same as for your eldest, but if you approach your decisions from the same underlying values that underly the choices that you made with your eldest, it will be the same quality parenting.
mother of Patrick (7/31/03), and Michael, William, and Jocelyn (4/27/07)