i *really* enjoyed Mapping Maternal Instinct. however, i was bothered by the fact the author seems to assume that all mothers have a full support network of friends and family who would be willing and able to just jump in and help with a new baby. maybe we're just in too small of a community but i have no friends locally who would be able to provide the sort of support the author describes as being necessary to the health of the mother. :: shrug :: also, at the end of the article, it seems to be implied that a mother cannot be "intricately tuned into" her baby if she's not staying at home full time and fully devoted to only her baby's needs... or that a mother cannot really be a good mother if she also considers her own interests alongside her baby's. (i'm not saying that's what the author is saying, i'm just noting that that's how i interpreted the article, and it bothered me.)
in the letters section, it *really* irritated me that readers would be upset by the aricle "Better than Ever" (about sex). sex is a part of motherhood, it's a natural part of being human, and women are inherently sexual and sensual beings.
while i normally enjoy Peggy's editorials, this latest issue's editorial kind of seemed... lame (for lack of a better word). we do try to lead a simpler life than our mainstream parenting counterparts, as a family, but it's difficult to be as laid-back as Peggy encourages when we really do have a lot of outside responsibilites that *need* to be taken care of.
this may sound silly, but i always like the advertisements in Mothering because they're so... pro-family/pro-mother... obviously, considering the magazine they're in, right? but it's so refreshing to see ads like these after being exposed to magazines like American Baby and Parents and Child for so many years.
finally, i *always* really enjoy reading the news and bullitens; there is always really useful info and news in there. love it.
|Please, please, please include articles about employed mamas who ap!
i am totally with you 100% somemama!! i'm a college student and although i agree with the attachment parenting movement and philosophy, it is disheartening to read the magazine and see so little support for people trying to raise their children well in our world while still trying to keep their *own* lives (and finances) in order or try to further their education.
i am really getting tired of the undertone that you cannot be a "good" mother if you still take time out to do stuff only for yourself, to be yourself, and not be around your kids 24/7/365. i'm of the belief that you can raise wonderful, securely attached, fully healthy kids even if you have work/school to attend to, and take time out every few months to party w/o the kids, do your nails, take a bath, dye your hair, whatever. (i.e., "be selfish".)
really what i'd like to see happen in our culture is a shift toward a more family-rich/ family-supportive environment... where babies are wlecome alongside their parents at work or in class, where all mamas are encouraged to breastfeed on demand, people don't just throw Rx's at a problem to treat the symptoms of a problem OR drug their kids up to make them more obedient, everyone practices nonviolent communication, and everyone cosleeps as much as possible... even while retaining their personal identity.
gosh... am i asking for too much? :LOL
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i really liked the chickenpox article, once i got past the idea of teaching kids it's ok to pass around snacks and share spit
... although we did vaccinate our son against it, i think the idea of developing a natural immunity is a good one.
*but* i hate seeing kids sick. so the next baby we have will probably also be fully vaccinated... i do support vaxxing (although i understand the anti-vax position) and i think it's right for our family.