Happy people of good will!
I love this question! My wedding was now almost 16 years ago. However, I still remember it as the best party I have ever attended. We were surrounding by people of good will who loved us and wished us the best. We had a ceremony of about 150 people--not tiny, but we tried to keep it as simple as possible. We involved as many people as we could--who LOVED us! Our neighbor's band played--a live band was one of the best decisions we made. Friends took pictures for us, another friend made a wedding certificate (it was a Quaker wedding) that everyone signed. It was (mostly) outside. My recommendation is to focus on the things that matter most to you. If there is any possibility of having it in the back yard of someone who LOVES YOU, I highly recommend it. It will be more meaningful and, incidentally, will be a lot less expensive.
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