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I want a child!

Good afternoon everyone! My name is Alexa and I really want a child. I would not register here, but I just cannot ask anyone about it. Usually, girls talk about their first pregnancy with their mother, but she died more than 5 years ago.
In brief about myself - I'm 24 years old, recently married a young man with whom I was about 3 years together. We really want children. But I am afraid. I do not know how pregnancy will pass. How will I give birth? Will a healthy baby be? I'm not even sure if I can get pregnant (I do not have any health problems, but everything can happen) I try to read as much literature as possible now on the topic of pregnancy. Articles from well-known doctors, etc. From next month we plan to no longer protect during sex. What advice do you have, how will you prepare for THIS in general? I read the article that you can calculate by the lunar calendar favorable days for pregnancy. And that there are ovulation tests I also read recently. I had not even heard of the houses before. Do they really work?

Sorry for the confusion. The main question is how can I prepare for pregnancy and childbirth.
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First, just breathe and relax! My husband and I tried for years with no luck, until I almost gave up and the moment we stopped wishing and praying, boom - I got pregnant. I was stressing myself out, I think that may have slowed down the time.

It is always a good idea to track your cycles. I use this old site called Cyclespage.com where you put in the dates of your menstruation cycle and it helps to predict when you ovulate, when you are likely to be fertile.

The best thing you can do is to just be healthy. You can start taking prenatal vitamins if you wish, and doing yoga or exercising is a big help, too. The more flexible and strong and healthy you are, the better. Just remember that women have been getting pregnant since time began, and don't let the stress beat you up!

Good luck!
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I`ll try but I`m sure I`ll be nervous till getting pregnant)
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I see that you are too stressed out. If you are so scared you should go to your doctor and ask her to help you. It's her task to answer all of your questions. First of all you have to calm down. Women get pregnant every day. If you know that you are healthy, everything will be fine. You are so young, dear. I'm sure your baby will be born healthy. Make sure that both your husband and you are ready to become parents. It is very important. People often give birth without understanding how hard it is. Being a parent is a huge responsibility. You should understand it. I believe you will become great parents! I wish you good luck.
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Well, don´t stress yourself too much. First, make sure that you are certain in your wishes, that you really want the child. If you have any doubts about it, talk to your partner. If you are firm in your decision to have a baby, then go for it. Also, an advice I would give you is to go to your gynocologist and have yourself checked first. Make sure everything is ok with your ovaries, to check if you have cysts or anything. Then, if all goes ok, make sure to know when your ovulating days are and enjoy making one! Good Luck!
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Don't be so worried, dear. Women were created to give birth. You are so young and healthy. You have a husband to support you. I'm sure you will give birth to an amazing baby. Make sure that both your husband and you are ready to be responsible for a baby. If the answer is positive, so there's no need to worry. You will become great parents. Keep trying and everything will be fine. There is a lot of literature, which would help you to get ready for the pregnancy.
I know a lot of women, which got pregnant when they stopped trying. It is very important to relax and to stay positive. Every woman is worth being a mother. And you are not an exception. I wish you all the best, dear.
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My dear. What I see is, you are overthinking. Stop that. You are ust getting over worried. There is nothing to be worried about. You will become a mother. You need to try first. Everything will be fine. You will be fine too. Just have faith in yourself.
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Well I am sorry for your mother. You are more than welcome here my friend. Don't worry you'll get everything here. It's going to be good for you. I am sorry for the losses. Just start ttc first. Don't stop it. It's going to happen for you. don't worry.
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Hi dear
Good afternoon to you! Welcome here, and I guarantee you that you will get someone who can step in your mother's shoe and advice you. Meanwhile, there is nothing special about giving birth. You can either give birth normally or opt for CS. But as a young girl I would advise that when the time comes, you opt for normal delivery. You see, if there are no complications, a woman should deliver naturally. The human body is made in such a way that it will automatically expel the baby from the uterus if it realizes that you are not making enough effort. In fact, the cramping that accompanies the labor pain is supposed to help the body to expel the baby. Unfortunately, we sometimes become impatient and rush ladies to the theatre. Now what happens is that months after conceiving, you will see your GP for check-ups. He will take you through some lessons that will help you familiarise yourself with the delivery process. There is nothing to worry about here my dear. In fact, after the first delivery, you will realize that the doctors play a very minimal role. If you can just push the baby at the right time, things will be alright. Now about conceiving, I cannot guarantee on that. Some women conceive easily while others struggle to conceive. So it depends on a lot of factors including your health status. If you have no fertility issue, I think you will not have a problem here. However, if you realize that you are taking too long to conceive, you will need to visit a doctor.
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Good afternoon everyone! My name is Alexa and I really want a child. I would not register here, but I just cannot ask anyone about it. Usually, girls talk about their first pregnancy with their mother, but she died more than 5 years ago.
In brief about myself - I'm 24 years old, recently married a young man with whom I was about 3 years together. We really want children. But I am afraid. I do not know how pregnancy will pass. How will I give birth? Will a healthy baby be? I'm not even sure if I can get pregnant (I do not have any health problems, but everything can happen) I try to read as much literature as possible now on the topic of pregnancy. Articles from well-known doctors, etc. From next month we plan to no longer protect during sex. What advice do you have, how will you prepare for THIS in general? I read the article that you can calculate by the lunar calendar favorable days for pregnancy. And that there are ovulation tests I also read recently. I had not even heard of the houses before. Do they really work?

Sorry for the confusion. The main question is how can I prepare for pregnancy and childbirth.
First of all, DO NOT PANIC. Panicking will only make things harder for you. You need to relax. If you think its too early for you, you can ask for some more time from your husband. And please stop assuming things. I'm sure you can do it. You firstly just need to relax. Don't even expect things to happen too soon. Keep track of your ovulation days. Keep your diet healthy and reduce alcohol intake. These things might be helpful. Please don't think you cant have children. It is absurd to assume such things before knowing anything for sure. If you expect bad things, they shall happen for you. So the key is to always expect good things to happen to you. Good luck with TTC. You'll get pregnant soon.
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Hey, there Alexa I hope you're doing fine. I think you're definitely overthinking about things. The process isn't that difficult and it all depends on your health. Some people are able to conceive with the first TTC while for some it takes a year. If it does take a year then that is the time you have to visit the doctor. Apart from that yes you should track your ovulation cycle, download an app and see when are you ovulating. Other than that you should also maintain a healthy lifestyle. Don't think this negatively and hope for the best. Always feel free to ask more questions we are always here for you.
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First of all do not stress so much. You should start trying without protection if you really want a baby. Do not think about what will happen, keep trying. If you do not conceive within a year without a protection then visit the fertility specialist. There are so many advanced fertility treatments are available nowadays. So don't worry and enjoy the whole journey.
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If you really want a child - don't be afraid) Yes, it can be difficult, but if you will be together, you may pass everything)
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I had a baby after 5 years of married life.Initially i had a problem of getting pregnant and my gyn suggested me to take the supplements.I was suggested to take fertilemd.After taking it within 2 months my harmonal imbalance became normal and got conceived.now have a baby girl.
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I had a baby after 5 years of married life.Initially i had a problem of getting pregnant and my gyn suggested me to take the supplements.I was suggested to take fertilemd.After taking it within 2 months my harmonal imbalance became normal and got conceived.now have a baby girl.
Congratulations. As women ages, hormonal changes are normal. In some cases, hormonal imbalance can lead to the problems in getting pregnant. There are some supplements and multivitamins which can help to regulate the hormonal imbalance.
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Hello,
First of all just be relax and be calm. Everything will be fine and super awesome. Do unprotected sexual intercourse, I don't think so there will be any issue in conceiving as you both are young and fertile. Fertility decreases as the age increases, so you are TTC at the right time. If you have any doubts regarding this, consult fertility tests and do pre pregnancy tests, this will help you to understand and take precautions for healthy pregnancy.
Be Positive and All the Best!
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Fertility clinic US

Hello! After a long time, my girlfriend and I dediced we want to be mothers... I am currenty looking for a fertility clinic that could offer us a shared motherhood complete service here in the United States. I've heard about a clinic called Fertty International, they have veeery affordable prices, the treatment is done in Barcelona but we don't have to travel there til the last step. Have you heard about it? Need some opinions please! As long as I know, there are not much more clinics there with a cost below $8,000 right?
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Don't stress yourself too much. If you know you are healthy then there is nothing to worry because everything will be fine. Just relax and be calm.
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Don't stress, stay blessed. Baby will be conceived soon. Trust, have faith and believe.
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Hey. I'm very sorry that you get so. When you want to become pregnant, but can not, babies and pregnancy can become all consuming and enter into all aspects of your life. Do not let this happen! Take a break, trying to get pregnant. Concentrate on other things in your life that are important (and, believe me, getting pregnant is not the only way to live a full life!).

Learn as much as possible about pregnancy
 Communicating with people in similar situations can help you feel less isolated and lonely when you are trying to get pregnant and really want a child.
Allow yourself time to mourn - which if you can not have a child. Do not get pregnant when you really want a child, it's a terrible loss. Grief is the process that you need to go through ... and you must allow yourself time to do it. It's all right - and even great - to be sad when you can not get pregnant. Give yourself time to mourn the loss of your hopes, dreams and plans.
Think about the presence of a non-biological pregnancy or family. If you want to be the parent of a child, there are other possibilities for conception and the birth of a child! Adoption, egg donors or sperm or surrogate parents can help you create the family of your dreams. Perhaps it will be more sensible and healthier for you to think about different options for having a child.
Explore other options to become pregnant
If you want to have a child biologically, you can contact a fertility specialist. Conduct appropriate tests for fertility and find out why you did not become pregnant. There is nothing worse than to wonder why you can not become pregnant, and even if you are afraid to find out what the problem is, this is an important step in creating your family.
I worry about you and wish you good luck.
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Good afternoon everyone! My name is Alexa and I really want a child. I would not register here, but I just cannot ask anyone about it. Usually, girls talk about their first pregnancy with their mother, but she died more than 5 years ago.
In brief about myself - I'm 24 years old, recently married a young man with whom I was about 3 years together. We really want children. But I am afraid. I do not know how pregnancy will pass. How will I give birth? Will a healthy baby be? I'm not even sure if I can get pregnant (I do not have any health problems, but everything can happen) I try to read as much literature as possible now on the topic of pregnancy. Articles from well-known doctors, etc. From next month we plan to no longer protect during sex. What advice do you have, how will you prepare for THIS in general? I read the article that you can calculate by the lunar calendar favorable days for pregnancy. And that there are ovulation tests I also read recently. I had not even heard of the houses before. Do they really work?

Sorry for the confusion. The main question is how can I prepare for pregnancy and childbirth.
Hey Alexa, how are you? For starters, relax. Pregnancy is a very natural part of one's life. If you want to go for, just do. Everything will work out perfectly. If not, there are a lot of other ways for you to choose from. Do not stress yourself. Eat healthily and try to be in a positive state of mind. Do not worry at all. I have you in my prayers. May God bless you.
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Hello everyone! It would be nice if you could help me...I am seeking a fertility clinic with shared motherhood treatment. Any experiences with Fertty International I have good feelings but would like to read something before travelling to Barcelona...Thanks!
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You are totally rushing into this. You need to relax and start TTC with a clear mind. You shouldn't be worried about all this right now. You get plenty of time to prepare for the pregnancy and birth. There is nothing to worry about. Focus on one thing at a time. I hope you get pregnant soon. Good luck.
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Good afternoon everyone! My name is Alexa and I really want a child. I would not register here, but I just cannot ask anyone about it. Usually, girls talk about their first pregnancy with their mother, but she died more than 5 years ago.
In brief about myself - I'm 24 years old, recently married a young man with whom I was about 3 years together. We really want children. But I am afraid. I do not know how pregnancy will pass. How will I give birth? Will a healthy baby be? I'm not even sure if I can get pregnant (I do not have any health problems, but everything can happen) I try to read as much literature as possible now on the topic of pregnancy. Articles from well-known doctors, etc. From next month we plan to no longer protect during sex. What advice do you have, how will you prepare for THIS in general? I read the article that you can calculate by the lunar calendar favorable days for pregnancy. And that there are ovulation tests I also read recently. I had not even heard of the houses before. Do they really work?

Sorry for the confusion. The main question is how can I prepare for pregnancy and childbirth.
LittleDonkey, it great that you interested in this theme, reading books etc!
I agree with anchasta that you should have your period calendar, I use Maya application on my phone, its really useful and always with you.
I would suggest you go to a gynecologist and tell that you want to prepare for pregnancy, it's normal. He/she will tell what analysis you should pass, may suggest you some books or any other sources of information.
You are a young girl, it is a big plus! Really!
Of cause you are worried, it's the most exciting life's moment!! But definitely, you should relax as much as you can and everything will be alright!
Wish all the best!
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Haven't read such an informative post never before.
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Honey, you need to calm down. You are clearing overthinking about it and stressing for no reason. This could really lead to a complicated pregnancy. You don't want to make things harder for yourself. Relax. Think about these things after you actually conceive. Don't stress yourself right now.
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You must consultant with the best gynacologist. You can call Dr Shivani Bhutani at Eva Hospital.
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