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Stress...keeping it to myself

I'm in the middle of a lot of big life transitions right now(divorce and custody, college for first time at 36, an amazing relationship completely unexpectedly...a lot of moving on but still letting go....) So, I haven't told anyone about this pregnancy except the father. And here. Holding it all together is becomming beyond exhausting. And I just feel way too old for all this energy-sucking. I just need to vent. Thanks. I'm just bummed to not have the energy to completely be in bliss about SO much good!
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I'm in the middle of a lot of big life transitions right now(divorce and custody, college for first time at 36, an amazing relationship completely unexpectedly...a lot of moving on but still letting go....) So, I haven't told anyone about this pregnancy except the father. And here. Holding it all together is becomming beyond exhausting. And I just feel way too old for all this energy-sucking. I just need to vent. Thanks. I'm just bummed to not have the energy to completely be in bliss about SO much good!
Wow...that's a lot of transitions! Do you have a pregnancy lifecare center in your area? They deal with so many different situations, and could offer you support, friendship, etc...plus it's all confidential. I actually support a center like this in my area now, but back when I too was in a transitional time of my life (and also pregnant), I wished I would have had something like this around (didn't have a center near me at the time). They offer counseling, resources, and free stuff for the baby, without being judgemental...Just a suggestion! ...Praying all comes together well for you and your baby, and that your new relationship is the "right" one!!!
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I'm in the middle of a lot of big life transitions right now(divorce and custody, college for first time at 36, an amazing relationship completely unexpectedly...a lot of moving on but still letting go....) So, I haven't told anyone about this pregnancy except the father. And here. Holding it all together is becomming beyond exhausting. And I just feel way too old for all this energy-sucking. I just need to vent. Thanks. I'm just bummed to not have the energy to completely be in bliss about SO much good!
Wow. That does sound like a lot. Hopefully your first trimester symptoms are ending and the second trimester energy will give you a surge.
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UPDATE: First prenatal in an hour. A CNM I've doula'd with is covered by my newly acquired insurance, so I know her and trust her and the hospital she attends at.I'm anxious.Still haven't told anyone, though I get a lot of wanting to know looks. Also, I have only ever had one traditional midwife and home births. This is very institutionalized for me, but I am 36 and my history and current relationship make me feel this is right for this birth. I feel the baby move quite a bit as of 2 weeks ago, so that's nice.I'm hoping we don't need to discuss downs. Big day.Deep breaths.
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UPDATE: First prenatal in an hour. A CNM I've doula'd with is covered by my newly acquired insurance, so I know her and trust her and the hospital she attends at.I'm anxious.Still haven't told anyone, though I get a lot of wanting to know looks. Also, I have only ever had one traditional midwife and home births. This is very institutionalized for me, but I am 36 and my history and current relationship make me feel this is right for this birth. I feel the baby move quite a bit as of 2 weeks ago, so that's nice.I'm hoping we don't need to discuss downs. Big day.Deep breaths.
let us know how it goes! I always feel anxious before appointments. Just thinking of the anatomy scan 4 weeks away makes my palms sweaty.

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Soooooo Monday!!!!!! The place did NOT accept my insurance.They are listed as such because they are applying to accept that coverage. Not cool.Now I have to re search, find, interview....ugh.Ugh.Ugh!
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oh bummer! hope you find a place that you love!

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UPDATE;
Found a provider, CNM, I can imagine birthing with her. It's at a hospital, with a few other attending midwives, so could be the luck of the draw, not my fave, but as it is. Boyfriend is INCREDIBLY medical-minded and test- happy. I had previously only ever seen a midwife I'd grown up knowing, at my home...this is a vastly different experience. I'm open to compromise, and a CNM is that. So far, so good. Also had an ultrasound. Kinda cool. Just completely different experience than ever before. Now, to focus on finding a good childbirth class that will teach him why I chose the births I did and why I need certain things to be the same as before. He's pro co-sleeping, but also vaccines, which I haven't even told him my other kids have none of. He'll be abhorred at that, so I need info and support he can bond with. Lots of compromising. It's very hard for either of us to not do things the way we are convinced is best...

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