I find the automatic assumption of "traditional parenting" roles incredibly demeaning and insulting to men. Just as I find the automatic assumption of "traditional household" roles incredibly demeaning to women. If you choose to follow them, as a collaborative decision with what works for your family, that is completely different than "this is men's work" / "this is women's work"
My husband's penis does not prevent him from doing dishes, washing laundry or cleaning the bathroom. He does NOT "baby sit" our son, he takes care of him. (that one drives me up a wall!)
My vagina does not prevent me from doing electrical work, plumbing, installing windows or maintaining our furnace.
However, if you watch television, you will see insulting stereotypes on practically every commercial, sit-com and movie. Fathers who can't possibly learn to change a diaper. Women who can't fathom the incredible complexity of checking the oil in their car. etc etc etc.
I do all of the night time care because I breast feed on demand when we are in bed. I've heard repeatedly from people that they are "amazed my husband allows the baby in the bed." ALLOWS? Really? I missed the part where I had to get permission from him to do anything. Our son sleeps with us so that I get every possible minute of sleep that I can, the only way to do that is to have the nursing baby with arm's reach. That wouldn't work for some mothers, but it works for us, and I sure didn't get permission to do it.
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