I love hearing everyones intentions and hopes for birth, so inspiring!
I love your determination to find a caregiver who will support your decision to VBAC! I hope you quickly find someone who resonates with you so you can check that off your to-do list.
My first birth was an unmedicated home birth. After DD was born and the placenta came out, the midwife discovered that the cord was attached in a weird way on the sac, far away from the placenta. She said she had never seen such an extreme case, and that she was irritated that the U/S techs hadn't picked up on that. Apparently if they had known, I wouldn't have been able to have my baby at home because I would have been considered high risk. It was scary to think that if my water had broken in the wrong place, my child would have suffocated! Thankfully, we learned this after she was safely born at home just like we wanted.
I agree, babies will come into this world exactly how they need to.
For this next birth, I hope to birth at home again (in the same home!) Last time I ended up propped up on my bed, which I had not planned for. Apparently I just wanted to be in my bedroom. This time I'm hoping to birth in a better position, like squatting.
My biggest intention, which feels largely out of my control, is that I want my 3 year old DD to be there. I'm planning to have my friend/doula be in charge of her, and be prepared to take her out of the house if she gets too distressed. However, I really hope to have her there. I need to spend more time researching having children at the birth, so I know what to expect and so I can prepare her. Maybe as things progress I won't really want her there and will just send her off right away. Ask me how I feel about it in a few more months!