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Who/when are you telling?

We haven't told anyone I'm pregnant yet (or at least not anyone I know in real life, since I did tell the ladies in my first DDC). Last time we waited until 6 weeks, which was a little early but it was Thanksgiving and we wanted to be able to tell my parents in person. We won't see them again until I will be almost 10 weeks, and I'm not sure I want to wait that long. We are also trying to decide how and when to explain it all to my 20-mo son. Maybe we'll tell close family at Easter? That seems really soon though!

What are other mamas' plans to share the news? Has anyone already told others?
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I told my best friend who has 3 kids - I actually told her before I told my partner because it kind of freaked me out and I was worried he would freak out (he didn't). She told her husband (I knew she would - we have a long-running understanding that whatever you tell us we tell our respective partners), who is also super close to us. I also told my parents and my partner told his mom...all at about 4 weeks...I can't keep secrets. I'm sure I'll just keep telling people, one by one

I haven't experienced a miscarriage so I don't know the way I'd like it handled, but my feeling is that if I were to lose one, everyone around me would know about it because that's how I am, so why keep the pregnancy itself a secret? Again, though, I wear my heart way too much on my sleeve.

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We have told most of our close family, and some close friends...I'm sure that word will spread quickly though lol! This is my 4th, and I've told earlier each time lol
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I told my best friend who has 3 kids - I actually told her before I told my partner because it kind of freaked me out and I was worried he would freak out (he didn't). She told her husband (I knew she would - we have a long-running understanding that whatever you tell us we tell our respective partners), who is also super close to us. I also told my parents and my partner told his mom...all at about 4 weeks...I can't keep secrets. I'm sure I'll just keep telling people, one by one

I haven't experienced a miscarriage so I don't know the way I'd like it handled, but my feeling is that if I were to lose one, everyone around me would know about it because that's how I am, so why keep the pregnancy itself a secret? Again, though, I wear my heart way too much on my sleeve.
I don't like keeping secrets either. I also feel like I would not try to hide a miscarriage (I would want the suppprt I think!), so while I won't be telling anyone at work or on Facebook for a very long time, I don't want to wait much longer to tell close friends and family. That's funny that you told others before your partner!
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We decided not to tell family this weekend after all. I'm not particularly worried, but I don't want to ask everyone to keep it secret like we did last time, and if we wait to tell anyone until after the ultrasound in 10 days, then I won't mind if they share the news with others. So now I'm just trying to figure out how to explain it to my 20-mo before the ultrasound.
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I've only told you the internet groups i'm in. We're not going to tell anyone until hopefully (fingers crossed) mother's day. I've thought about not telling my husbands family until i can't hide it any longer. We don't see them much so i might be able to hold off telling them for a while.
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