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My doula called me (at 32 weeks) to ask if she could bring an "assistant" to shadow her during my birth. I really do not feel comfortable having another person in the delivery room other than my husband and the doula we hired. Would you say no? Also, she has asked if the assistant can come to our second prenatal visit and our post-natal visit. But again, I'd rather not...Am I being unreasonable?
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I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. You hired your doula to help you have your needs met during a vulnerable time, if having another person would be uncomfortable, just be honest and say so! It's unfortunate for the 'assistant' who is probably looking for experience/training, but the laboring mama's needs come first, and doulas, of all people, should understand that!

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You're not being unreasonable at all. As a newly-trained doula, I will be shadowing someone before I go it alone, but I expect more of her clients to say no to my presence in the room than yes. I would probably say no, too! I think it takes a certain kind of woman to be OK with someone shadowing, and I doubt she will be surprised if you say no.
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I also think it's ok to say no. When I was training as a doula, the same thing happened to me, and I understood. I hope you have a great birth!

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just say "no"

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