So, I am on my 3rd and final pregnancy.
I have wanted ever since my second pregnancy , to give birth naturally.
my first c-section in 2011 My water sprung a leak and being uneducated AND a first time mommy, i immediately went to L&D where i was almost immediately put on pitocin. they actually started it at about 3am but a glitch resulted in me not getting it until about 6am. i was allowed to labor (with epidural) until about 3pm when the dr came in a informed me i was only 4centimeters dilated and hadnt progressed much since admitting , and babys heartrate had dropped like 2 times so i was given a c-section.
my second was in 2013 and while my doctor agreed to "entertain the idea of a vbac" he told me if i hadnt dilated by my due date, i would get another section. well ,due to being ridiculously stressed basically on my own (no support for vbac from just about everyone) and my husband taking his baby vacation time way too early, i gave in and went ahead with section #2
. no complications or anything. strictly elective on my part, which i so regret now..
fast forward to now, very early in pregnancy ,5 weeks now, I am totally consumed by my desire to vba2c! its literally all i can think about and i know its going to be like climbing everest to succeed in getting what i so want. I feel selfish for saying I want this , but I really feel it is the best and safest option for both of us. Our bodies were designed for natural birth! But I live in Louisiana, a state with one of the highest c-section rates in the country from what i understand , and my area has a de facto ban for the most part on vbac let alone vba2c.i cannot afford a midwife and from what i gather , i couldnt get one to attend a homebirth anyway or she could lose her license.
I have 2 toddlers now and caring for them PLUS a newborn on my own while recovering from major abdominal surgery is a nightmare , i know it was with my second child! the only real option i feel i have is to go to my regualr ob until the date of my surgery, and just not show up. until i begin labor that is..so my question is:
can i do that? can i just not tell anyone and stay at home until labor begins and simply arrive at the hospital in full blown labor and refuse the surgery?