How to Handle Ex's Family
In July a court decided my ex should receive supervised visitation due to a drug issue. He has stated that he does not need to be supervised, will not pay anyone to see his daughter and will not go, this isn't my problem because I feel like that is his loss. What I'm struggling with now is how to deal with his family. His mom and her boyfriend smoke heavily in their house, although they state they don't do it while she is there I don't know if I trust that they are not and I have told them I do not want her staying there at all because the smoke and every thing in a cigarette lingers whether they smoked hours before she got there. I explained to his mom that she could not stay there until all smoking stopped. His older sister came to get her last month and kept her at the mom's house, I do not believe the sister knew my request that she not stay there, I assumed she did but regardless the mom knew. There was another time the mom asked to come see her, she does not go anywhere without an entourage, I informed her that I do not want her bringing anyone over, that I'm not comfortable having people I don't know at my house. I called her on the day she was supposed to come and she told me she was bringing someone with her. I told her I preferred she did not do that. There was another instance, before this, that she asked to come did not show up and did not call or answer my text and another time she did come but spent the majority of her time on the phone telling people the penny room, aka illegal gambling facility, was busted the night before, she has a gambling addiction. In addition to the smoking the whole family cusses a lot and will tell vulgar stories in front of children. I also do not think they put her to bed until extremely late because when I get her back she is exhausted and is hard to get on her normal schedule. I'm trying to be accommodating and understand they love her and want to see her but I really just don't want to deal with them anymore, it's giving me great anxiety and is constantly in my mind. Has anyone experienced a similar situation, how did you handle it and am I wrong from wanting to cut communication with them until the dad decides to go to his supervised visitations and they can join him?