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"He's Just Not that into You" today. I plan on starting it tonight. I figure if L.J. reccomends it, its got to be helpful at the least. Thanks L.J.
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I think about getting LJ's recommendation too. But I hesitate for fear of too much reality slapping me in the face!!!!! : Babysteps...for me. Does anyone believe ignorance is bliss?! (that is a joke)

I can't wait to hear how you like it though. Keep us posted.
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Okay stupid me, i should have known not to start a book at night. It is now 4:30am and I just finished it. i couldn't put it down. It was great!! A real eye opener, but not quite a slap in the face. Which I REALLY appreciate!! : It made me reflect on all my previous relationships, and well, my current whatever. And THAT alone should be enough for me, "my current whatever" I don't know what it is, so I should leave it alone and move on. I KNOW this, but now is the point of doing it. All though this situation is a little different then knowing a guy for a couple months, and trying to figure it out, or this could just be my excuses for him/the relationship..LOL. Oh Lord!!

Anyways...It was a VERY good book!!! I totally reccomend it also!!!
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Feeling tired today? I love getting into a good book too. I am too tired to stay up, though. I need to get that book out of the library.
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Hey, I'm glad you enjoyed it.
I agree it's not really a slap in the face kind of thing, but it certainly got me thinking about myself and relationships both past and present.
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Oh great - Now I really want to read it! I've been reading parenting books out the wazzoo (I know, I am kind of geeky, but I really need all the help I can get! MDC has recommended some wonderful books). Maybe I need to start working on "me" too.

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I also read it. lots of it is what you know (or should know) but tend to forget during romance. I think everyone in the dating relm should read it...maybe even reread it with each new romance!

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I also read it. lots of it is what you know (or should know) but tend to forget during romance. I think everyone in the dating relm should read it...maybe even reread it with each new romance!
That's exactly it! But, you know, even after reading it, my radar was up and I was more tuned in to a relationship where things were changing. Instead of "riding it out" like I used to, I decided to end it that day because I knew it wasn't going where I wanted it to be going.
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I read the book too. It is great. I haven't started dating again yet, but reading it helped me quit hanging on to the hopes of getting back together with STBX and start moving on.
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I also read it. lots of it is what you know (or should know) but tend to forget during romance. I think everyone in the dating relm should read it...maybe even reread it with each new romance!
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That's exactly it! But, you know, even after reading it, my radar was up and I was more tuned in to a relationship where things were changing. Instead of "riding it out" like I used to, I decided to end it that day because I knew it wasn't going where I wanted it to be going.
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While I read the book I kept saying "Oh I know that"..."Who
doesn't know that"... But then when I let it sink in and thought
about past relationships it dawned on me the difference
between knowing better and doing better.

I think it's best to buy the book, keep it, and yeah read it when
starting a relationship. To remind yourself threw your romantic
"Isn't he dreamy" how hot and rocking you are.
It's something I never got about my friends. I am very
proactive at the beginning of a relationship. If I see warning
signs it's easy for me to move on. But my downfall is I am the
habitual "get back together" girl.
I have had 3-4 serious relationships in my adult life, and I just
seem to recycle them over and over. :LOL I am a sucker for
wanting that beginning of that relationship, knowing full well that
the end of the relationships were not worth it, but thinking oh
but it could work out this time.

Actually it's something I have been thinking about lately with
somebody I dated in the past. Threw friends we met up again,
we’re both single, talking some, and : yeah I broke one
of the rules, I asked him out.
But this relationship didn't end bad, it ended good, but I wanted
to move to California and he didn't (plus we hadn't dated long
enough for a move).

So I'll go out with him, but with new glasses I gained threw
reading this book.

I really believe that men and women would get along better if
more people read this book. Men aren't always dogs, sometimes
they are weak, embarrassed, or stupid. Doesn't make them
bad people. I see so many of my friends dating men, allowing
that man to play games with their mind, then my friend telling me
he did this, he did that, and if I say well maybe you should move
on, then I am the bad guy.

It comes down to common respect. If the one your dating isn't
cutting the mustard just move on. I would always rather
be single than in a bad or unsatisfactory relationship.

-Janna, independent mother of dd, Ms. Mattie Sky born on my 25th birthday, 06*23*2000. My Mama Feb.21,1938-Sept.10,2006
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Every woman should read this book. I wish I'd had it when I was younger. Costco sells it and I bought a bunch of copies to give as graduation gifts to all our babysitters. I the author - he just rocks. Oprah has him on every once in a while and I just love watching him. Quick, easy read.

Don't waste the pretty!
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Don't waste the pretty!

: so true! Love that quote.

-Janna, independent mother of dd, Ms. Mattie Sky born on my 25th birthday, 06*23*2000. My Mama Feb.21,1938-Sept.10,2006
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