This is a continuation of a conversation/thread in TAO. is your child an "old soul" or do you know an "old soul".
I posted in this thread #8, and then read a reply by VWChick #11.
It brought up something that I feel deeply, think about from time to time about my dd, and I wanted
to create a discussion/get some thoughts from other single parents.
I have looked back at my life several times to the point of dd's birth. A couple of weeks before dd
was conceived I was on a road trip with a friend and we started to talk about the state of our lives.
At one point I lifted my hands in the air and said "God give me something that will propel my life
into adulthood". I was not happy with the state of where I was. I didn't feel like the path I was
taking was healthy, and I was mourning the loss of my Grandfather days before.
So I'm blessed with dd, I had left her Dad while pregnant. My Mom got ill while I was pregnant and I
moved back in with my parents to help my Dad to care for her. Truthfully if I wasn't pregnant at the
same time I think I would have continued to drive to their home everyday to help, but while pregnant
I was too tired for that.
I don't want to make this a novel but there are many more choices that were forced because of the
fact that I was pregnant/then a single mom. Many of these choices I feel I would never have made in
the same manner if I hadn't been blessed with dd. These choices in the long run were exactly where
I needed to be, even if they were painful choices. These choices gave my life the path that I am so
My dd has words beyond her 6 years. She got up and spoke at both my Mother's and Grandmother's
funerals last Fall. Spontaneously she just got up and spoke, at the perfect moment, with beautiful
words beyond her years. She speaks so clearly and intelligently on death at such a young age. It's
really amazing. I'm also shocked at times how she can deal with the abandonment by her Father.
I'm not saying that it never bothers her, and she has many sad moments. But she's so comfortable
with the world around her and is so strong emotionally.
OKay so my long ramble, this is what I am trying to get at. I have at times felt as though my dd was
sent to me to teach me, allow me to grow, and force me to choose a stronger path in life. I also feel
that she could have chosen me on purpose, chosen a single parent on purpose.
Any thoughts on this? Does my post make any sense? Do you believe that our children could choose us?