Please... i'm going crazy. DS is nearly 5mo, and just refuses to be worn. I've tried hugabub, RS and just received brand new kozy a month ago... of course, he HATES it!
I'm getting a little desperate...
The prob is that i have a 22mo DD, who loves it when she can touch and cuddle DS, but she gets so rough. And if i'm busy, she'll try to hurt him so i give her some attention. I'm trying really hard to focus on her, but it's sooo hard when i have to either carry ds in arms, or have him in the bouncer (which he likes for a little while) but keep her away from him.
I guess i was naive in thinking it was all going to work so well - DS would be practically out of sight on my back all day, while i got lots of housework done, and gave enough time to dd so she didn't feel too displaced.
It's nothing like that. At all. And i'm turning into a blubbering mess.
It's not just the sling thing... ds screams his head off every single time i put him in the car seat, which makes going out so stressful.
And i'm still nursing dd, which i thought would help w/ the jealousy... after nearly 5 months, she still gets upset almost every time ds nurses, which of course is a lot.
She also still nurses at night, usually between 4 - 8 times, and screams bloody murder if i say no. So, between the 2 of them, i'm up pretty much all night.
It's like having 2 babies. Which i thought would be ok, if only ds would be happy in the sling. (I know it won't fix everything, but if i could at least make some breakfast... or clean my teeth... i don't even care about the housework)
He likes to be held in my arms, but even then he squirms a lot. I have to change his position regularly. He hates being held too close though, which i guess is why he won't go in any carrier i've tried.
Can anyone think of anything for me to try?
I don't think i've explained myself very well... but i'm at my wit's end.
Thanks for any advice, Trish