I'm about 18 weeks pregnant and have a 4 year old son. For the majority of my pregnancy so far it hasn't been so bad with nursing, but recently it is just unbearable.
Started with the heebie jeebies, now it's just full on pain
The problem is, he's asking ot nurse and I'm saying no. My plans for CLW are also out the window like I've read others say in other posts, but I'm wondering if this is really traumatic or if it's just a break in routine for him.
His usual nursing routing nowadays is to nurse to sleep and when he wakes up in the a.m., he automatically just says "boobie". Not so sure that it's because he necessarily needs it to start his day, but something he's been saying for what, 3 years????
When the pain began we talked about it and I told him we'd have to do boobie for only a minute or even a few seconds. Incredibly when we started this, even if it was for five seconds that I could stand it, he'd unhook himself and be asleep faster than he would have been had he been nursing. This was my first clue that maybe he's actually ready and my pregnancy is coinciding with this.
Now, for the last few days he hasn't nursed at all, and it's really only because I'm telling him no. He's not putting up much of a fight or even raising his voice when I tell him that we just can't do it (in so many words.). So again, is this telling me he's really ready anyway? And by the way, when we go to sleep now, I just put my arm around him and he's asleep very quickly. We go back and forth two or three times about no boobie and then that's it. I think now we're just at that point where the last step is to just not ask for it anymore.
I asked him if he wanted a boobie cake and he really doesn't. We talked about getting a boobie cake when he stopped nursing; this was a while ago, but he does remember it. He understands what's going on and I'm sure it's because he doesn't want to mark it as an end. In all honesty I probably wouldn't mind if he started back up after the baby is born. Then again he's very territorial when it comes to nursing and I am thinking it's best to put some time between him not nursing and the baby coming rather than try to delegate boobs.
I haven't noticed any marked change in his behavior since this has happened. The kid has nursed every single day of his life so far, so I expected something but I really haven't seen a change.
The sad thing is I can't really say that I'm upset about it. I am not feeling compassion and maybe it's because I don't need to, or because I'm being selfish???? Who knows!!
Anyway, I guess this is just a vent; wondering if anyone is going through something similar!