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Aster, and others-
Gather all the ideas from here and from Mothering Your Nursing Toddler. Weaning Happens is another good book. Now, remember, you are an individual (with unique health issues and personality traits), and your small nursing person is an individual too. So, try out and or all of the suggestions. Some may work for you, some may not.
Some moms may have a real need for regualr mealtimes. Some toddlers amy be so spirited/insistent/hungry they won't agree to delay a nurse. If your child gets too upset to delay a nurse while you eat, the idea of sitting on the floor by a low table of food, nursing while eating, may work (esp if he sees the food there, and takes some of it, after nursing. Make sure there is lots of water available too). Or, you could just sneak in your meal, by having it at the counter while he plays, if sitting down is too associated with nursing. No, you won't have to stand to eat forever!
Remember, nursing a toddler is a 2 way street. Your feelings and needs are important too. I am all in favor of teaching "nursing manners" to older babies and toddlers.
For those with tandem nursing toddlers/preschoolers, can you delay or shorten feeds? Can you let them nurse while youc ount to 10, for ex? Really, a 34 mo should not need to nurse as aften, or certainly for as long, as a newborn. All successful EBF moms learn to set limits to make everyone as comfortable as possible. It's called compromise. Don't let an older nursling think they can demand to nurse any time, leaving you feeling used. That is not necc a good lesson to teach your child.
Breastfeeing is certainly a womanly art. It is part of the relationship dance you and your child are doing.