I just found this forum and realized there is a name for what I decided to do with my daughter so long ago... (she's now 23 months)
I have a question - here's the situation: I don't entertain at home very often, but this weekend I had overnight guests and then more people over for a day. So I was running around cooking, conversing, finding towels, etc. etc... and my girl would not stop asking me for milk! The phrase "mama, some milk" would just come out of her mouth every other time she said something. It was weird! Someone would ask her a question and she'd look at them and say that! So these friends and relatives who don't often see us saw her like this and were pretty freaked out. Even my best friend, who totally supports breast feeding as long as you want to (but doesn't have any kids), took me aside and said, "you know, this nursing thing is really out of hand!"
I didn't know what to say... I think I said something like "well, she is probably over stimulated with all these people around and knows it will be a refuge." But my friend just shook her head and said "good luck".
I did nurse her more frequently during that time, and it seemed like it was more for comfort and less for food. She would only nurse about 4 minutes or so at a time.
Does anyone else have experience with this, and how did you deal with it? I've never been embarrassed by breastfeeding, but felt embarrassed by this situation.
This is my only child and I wasn't raised in a large family or around others who breasfed past 1 1/2. I only recently found Mothering and was happy to see that my instincts were being backed up by so many people, like nursing until she weans herself and not vaccinating. She does sleep in a crib next to our bed because she kicks me in the face otherwise and doesn't sleep well.
It does seem like she gets more wild and demanding when I refuse, but when she asks so often I have to! Normally I can tell when she really wants to nurse or is only asking because she is hungry. In those instances, I can usually offer her some food and she is happy and says "Oooooh-kay". This weekend, nothing worked. Not food, toys, artistic endeavors, snuggling, favorite movie, etc. I feel like I couldn't have people over again like that for fear of a repeat of the situation.