Stats: single sahMom of 3 (DS 10, DD 3.5, DS 10mos)
I've had it with nursing my 3.5 year old! I don't want to quite because she obviously needs it. Her dad and I seperated in Nov. and since then it is her main source of security. We've cut back to nursing just at bedtime, but this is clearly not enough, so now I'm trying the don't ask, don't refuse...but she wants to nurse upwards of 10 times a day. I can't deal with that! I can't deal mostly because her latch is funny and it is really irritating. It doesn't hurt, but it's like she stimulates a nerve ending or something and makes me want to crawl right out of my skin (a lot like when I was pregnant and nursing her but I'm definitely not pregnant).
I've decided to stick with it. I know she'll wean eventually...I know she will. But it seems like it will be a while down the road and I'm just not sure how to keep going. If any other method of calming her worked (and she really only wants to breastfeed...when I offer anything else once she's asked...like cuddles or a book, she's not interested in that and will FLIP OUT until I nurse her. I belive strongly that this means she NEEDS to nurse not that she's manipulating me or power struggling with me, so don't go there.) I'm just trying to figure out how I can continue to meet this need.
When she is not nursing I've tried to take extra time to be with her...catch her before the NEED arises, but this doesn't take away from the time she wants to nurse, not to mention that she really only wants to spend time with me when she's nursing...otherwise she's insistent on being independent, playing on her own with her brothers or with friends in our complex. My nipples feel so overstimulated! My baby (10 months) doesn't cause the same sensation when he nurses. This could be due to the fact that my DD has a severe overbite and nothing we've done to remedy her latch works.
I feel like I'm just venting...I've talked with LLL leaderfriends and other members. I just feel a bit at my wits end. Especially since tandem nursing this morning caused me to go over the edge and squeal, "I can't nurse you two anymore!!!"
How can I take care of myself so I don't get to this level of frustration? I'd like to be able to surrender to this.