child led v. mommy led weaning, guilt, and returning to nursing - Mothering Forums

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#1 of 3 Old 10-14-2005, 12:11 PM - Thread Starter
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Okay...lots of thoughts here. I practiced tandem nursing for a year until, three days after dd2s birthday, I decided dd1 should stop nursing (at 3y9mo). Her latch was AWFUL and made me feel like bad foreplay...I really didn't want to feel that way but there was too much licking involved. And I'd tried really hard to work with her on it, describing what I thought, having her stick her tongue out (made things worse!) open wide, etc. But it didn't get better, and I said we were done. She handled it really well, actually...

But she still sometimes asks to nurse.

And I feel really, really bad about the fact that she still has some desire to nurse and I am not meeting that need! I try to cuddle, to see this as a sign from her that she needs more mom time, we read a book, but still...occasionally she asks.

So has anyone let a child who's weaned try nursing again? Probably her latch is only worse, if that's actually possible...and maybe she'd just realize she's done...but I know she'd get milk because mine comes out so fast/easily, and I worry that if she did nurse, it would make her kind of go back to something she's, overall, happily left behind.

Any thoughts/experiences?
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This is a tough call- on the one hand, she wouldn't be asking if she didn't still need to nurse on some level, but if you're really not comfortable with her nursing, then it probably won't be a positive experience for either of you.

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