Has anyone else here delayed ttc because of clw and cosleeping? At 2.5 I'm finding my reasons for not wanting another babe yet are focusing more and more on the fact she still needs both of those a lot, especially the feeding when she's having a rough day. She's pretty full on personality wise, high maintenance rather than easy going. So I imagine another babe like her plus her now and go a bit
. I enjoy her because I can take the time to regroup atm, with extra pressure it could all go to hell in a handbasket. I guess I have a very low tolerance for not enjoying myself LOL
I guess I read a lot of AP mums stressed with the demands of a toddler and a babe and the thought of doing that to myself on purpose puts me right off, although I am sure they find the rewards worth it.
I am fairly comfortable with this decision except on one score - feel like closer age siblings will be more fun for each other, and that I'm depriving them of this for selfish reasons. And when I examine this it doesn't stand up because my brothers are close in age but aren't close, and my SIL is 6 years younger than her sister and they are best of friends. They'd be as many stories of the opposite, age gap doesn't mean so much to adult relationships, personality does and you can't order those.
It's probably more that everyone seems to space their kids about 2 years apart and I am feeling if everyone does it, it's for a good reason, even tho in other parenting decisions I don't feel like that! On every other score except that, I feel that having a bigger gap will be better for all of us.
It seems so sensible now I've written it out LOL Anyway, are there others in this forum for whom these decisions have born the most weight on their family spacing? I usually find people with a large gap like 3 or 4 years are usually mums who have returned to outside work for a period.