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#31 of 172 Old 01-30-2008, 09:10 PM
 
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I wasn't CLW, but up into preteen years(7-9 yo), I would call cuddling "nunny", my term for nursing.

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My mom swears up and down I "rejected" her at five months...
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I hear diff things about how long I was BF, but about 9 mo... I do remember wanting to BF and not being allowed... or it being bad ... or something. very vague

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Yes, I remember nursing.

I nursed until I was nearly 5 years old. I was born in 1984, though, so that was later than most of you I think.

My sister was born when I was 4.5 and I was allowed to nurse when she finished a session. She also nursed until past age 4.
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My mom thought I wasn't getting enough bm about 1-2 weeks after I was born, so she switched me to formula. So that's a big no. At least she "tried". I think both of my sisters were formula drinkers from day 1.

I don't really believe that I wasn't getting enough already by that point (how would she even know? she had no frame of reference for this), but I do think that it would have been a possibility down the line. I had major supply issues with dd, and thyroid issues run in my family. My mom knows now that she has a slow thyroid, so if she did then -- that could have easily affected it. But at 2 weeks? I doubt. It took ME a long time to realise that *I* was having supply issues. It's not all that easy to tell.

She also had me on solid foods by 6 weeks.

When dd was still an infant, she made some comment to me about how she thinks its "gross" that some people still breastfeed when their dc's are one and a half. I was thinking, "one and a half?! That sounds young!"

Funny, but dd stopped nursing at exactly one and a half. I fought very hard for my milk supply, but I just didn't have much left at that point. But I still let her comfort nurse as much as she wanted until she just stopped asking for it.

I have a feeling that my mom already feels a little differently about her 1 1/2 year-old comment. I think I've opened her eyes a little. I hope.

My step-mom, on the other hand, was a HELL of a lot more supportive about it after she went to an LLL meeting with me.

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I don't know anyone IRL who did anything like CLW except my grandmother. She BF her youngest until (according to my mom) he was 4 (and much too old for my mom's comfort). I was BF until I was 10 months. My sister was the longest at jsut under 18 months.

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I was born in 1981 and weaned when I was somewhere near 4. I vividly remember nursing while listening to country music and watching the trees through the big box fan in the window!!! And I remember going through a phase where I had to hold the boobie to get to sleep... And it was the best thing my mother ever did for me and I will always thank her for that... even if we cannot get along as adults.

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my mom did clw for some of us (there are 6 of us). i remember her weaning my youngest brother at 2. i remember her nursing my middle brother at 3/4 and i remember her letting me nurse when i asked once when that brother was a baby (i was 3 or 4 - that's my only concrete vivid nursing memory). i was weaned during her pregnancy with him. i don't remember it, but i still raz her about poor me having to wean early at only 3 years old (she was nursing me and my younger sister while pregnant and someone just had to go).

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I was bottlefed, my mom says she would have loved to breastfeed but I was adopted and she didn't know anything about how you can try to get your milk to come in for an adopted child.
I was on the bottle until I was 2, one day I got a stomach virus and she told me the bottle caused it and I threw them all away, so child led kinda I guess? a bit deceptive though.
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I remember nursing too, and I was born in 1972. I didn't realize until recently how extraordinary my mom was for making that happen despite medical advice advising her to wean during pregnancy and with all the societal pressures. My mom tandem nursed me and my younger brother, and he self-weaned before I did!
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My mom is so proud of the fact that she nursed each of us 3 girls for 9mo. At that time, that was a loooong time!

DH's mom had 5 children in 7 years. DH is the oldest and weaned the day the next brother came along 13mo later. BUT, the youngest was breastfed until he was 5! All the siblings and him remember that and still tease him about it :

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My mom CLW all 5 of her children, and her first was born in 77.
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My mom nursed both of her kids till we were 2. At that point, we were still waking to nurse 2-4 times a night, and she didn't co-sleep. She didn't know anybody else who nursed anywhere near that long, so she had never heard of the possibility of working to decrease night feedings/night weaning, and she just couldn't handle that much sleep disruption for more than 2 years at a stretch. She's all apologetic to me about it now, but I keep telling her I'm amazed she kept it up for 2 years, between the wakings and just the breastfeeding climate (and she's generally very mainstream).

BTW, I was born in 1972, and my brother was in 1976.

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No, I think it was more a matter of not knowing how to deal with a toddler nursing strike. I have no memories of nursing.
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Sort of, though I guess it is debatable. I think I was nursed around 18 months and my mom said I was down to only nursing in the morning and then I lost interest. She had a home day care, so there were lots of kids in the house to distract me, plus I was a big thumb sucker. I was born in 82.
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Yes she did! She said I nursed till I was a little over 3. DH's mom also CLW which I was very suprised to find out. He was 3 when he weaned also.
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My mom did! I was born in 77 and she was an LLL leader. She actually wrote a letter about me in the Weaning Gradually with Love chapter of the Womanly Art. Her letter was actually about "Child-led weaning is not mother doing nothing." She was explaining that nursing can be a convenient habit that substitutes for meeting some of a toddler's other growing needs. She nursed me until 2 1/2 and my little sister until 3 1/2. I'm now nursing my own youngest and he's 3 1/2. I did wean my older one before my younger one was born, because I didn't want to tandem nurse, and I regret it now... My oldest needed it the most, and it did effect my sons' relationship with one another for a long time. Keep up the nursing mamas!
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I weaned at 3.5 and my younger brother did at 4.5 soooo I think it was probably more true CLW with my bro than me. but then she tandem nursed us for 18 mos of it so that likely impacted when/why I weaned.

I'll have to ask my mom more about it now I'm curious

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I nursed until I was around 3...I don't know if I weaned myself, though. I can't remember it.

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My mother "tried" to nurse me, but switched to formula after about 2 weeks because she was having problems. My borther was formula fed from Day 1.
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She was explaining that nursing can be a convenient habit that substitutes for meeting some of a toddler's other growing needs.
That's interesting, I'll have to read that. I can see how breastfeeding can almost be "abused"... Like you get lazy and say "you're hungry? here, nurse" I hope I'm not doing that too much. It is hard to find that balance. Is the article only in the book?
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Thank you so much for all your responses! (I'm the OP.)

If you wanted to know, my mom was given horrible nursing advice and her milk was gone by 3 months or so with both me & my sister. You know, the old "nurse only so many minutes per side, don't nurse more than xx often, if the baby seems hungry you're not making enough and give them formula" crap. My mom is AMAZED that I still have tons of milk for my 15 month old. ;-)
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That last post reminded me of a funny story so I decided to post.

I was nursed maybe 2 weeks. My mother was really stressed out and drank coffee and claims that I wouldn't sleep because of it. She hated it and said she felt she was drying up due to stress and she didn't really know what she was doing. Keep in mind, she was also washing her nipples before and after and timing it 10 mins on either side.

She nursed my sister until 7 months old when she got teeth because my grandmother told her the baby would bite her and she would get cancer...
Anyhow - she LOVED nursing my sister and regreted having to stop. She said it was stressful - because I (as a 2 year old) kept stealing her watch and she couldn't time it! I thought that was interesting being that she enjoyed her nursing experience so much more than she did while timing and washing and such.

My mother was a firm believer in timing BF until the public health nurse check up visit that I made her stay for so she could hear how silly that is from someone other than me.

Not sure if I will CLW... I think it depends on how soon he is looking at stopping...

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I think with my brothers she nursed until they wouldn't stop biting.. one made her bleed and then I think I nursed until I was over 2 years old and one day I just didn't want it anymore. She's super supportive of bf and can't imagine having to get up and make bottles lol. Co-sleeping supporter to an extent as am I. Personally once their really little it's no big deal but my older boys kick and I can't sleep like that !

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My mom only nursed me for a couple months. She got a breast infection, and at the time, the doctor advised her to wean. I'm sure she would have gone longer, otherwise.

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yep, born in 82 to a seasoned LLL leader, so yea, it was a no brainer for her. I nursed until somewhere between 2.5 and 3.5, and I remember several foggy nursing memories.

I do remember crying and whining for "nurnie" while my mom was on the phone (Likely some poor LLL mom trying figure out BF!) and Dad trying desperately to distract me.

Also to this day I refer to comfort nursing with Georgie as "Nurnie" I think it was just established as a tot and stuck. Nursing for food, though is "nursing."



. . . But to mom's credit, she initially thought that she would have to FF because she would have to work after my oldest sis was born. The nurse at her first prenatal visit, set her straight and said, "you can still breastfeed! Just pump while you are at work and nurse at home." That anonymous nurse has been credited with saving all of our chances to BF. How's that for lactivism in 72?!

My mom was awesome after G was born, constantly helping us get the perfect latch/position, etc. When I got a nasty kidney infection at 1 week pp, she later told me that she had to fight the urge to comfort nurse G while I was resting.
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I was nursed until I "weaned myself" at 11 months. Nursing strike I guess??


I was 11.5 months

db#2 was 15 months

db#3 was 18 months (through #4's pregnancy)

dsis until 23 months

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My mother wasn't "allowed" to nurse me. She was given the injection to dry up her milk while still under twilight sleep. Afterwards, when she expressed sorrow to the nurse, the nurse told her, "That's dirty."

She nursed my sister until about 10 months, when there was a nursing strike combined with her milk drying up suddenly, due to emotional trauma. She had zero support, and her friends and relatives were quite happy about it.
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My mother wasn't "allowed" to nurse me. She was given the injection to dry up her milk while still under twilight sleep. Afterwards, when she expressed sorrow to the nurse, the nurse told her, "That's dirty."

She nursed my sister until about 10 months, when there was a nursing strike combined with her milk drying up suddenly, due to emotional trauma. She had zero support, and her friends and relatives were quite happy about it.
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Nope, My mom stopped nursing my brother at 3 months as "he was always hungry" (I would be also on 4hour schedule!) andx me at 6 months and put me straight on cow's milk as per docs advice. She admires me though for nursing my kids for as long as I do, and was always very supportive.
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