My dd is almost 3 and has been barely nursing for months already. Barely means she only nurses before bedtime and when she nurses it is usually about 5 seconds per side. She sometimes nurses for about 5 seconds per side if she wakes up in the night. She rarely asks to nurse in the am when she wakes up. It has been many many months since she asked to nurse for comfort during the day. She sometimes chooses not to nurse at nighttime and I always reassure her that either way is fine -- it's her choice. On Monday night before she nursed she said "Nursing tonight and then all done with nursing". She said it so confidently and clearly it took me off guard. I asked her a couple of questions to make sure I was hearing right but I sure was. She was so matter of fact about it. She did mention nursing again until Wed night when she sort of half heartedly asked. I didn't know what to do b/c I believe in CLN, but I think she is trying to lead in her child way and needs my help. I said, "You told me you were all done with nursing. Is it hard to say good bye to nursing". She was lying in my arms in a nursing position when we were talking and she was clearly sad, but she didn't really indicate that she was ready to nurse. That said, I didn't pull up my shirt and offer her a breast either. We talked some more and she said things like "When I was an infant I nursed" with a smile on her face. And, then a few more times asking for nursing. What was striking to me was that when I didn't raise my shirt, she did not protest as she might have in the past if I tried to staff for whatever reason. After a bit more conversation, we went on to the usual nightime things we do like telling stories and singing songs and eventually snuggling in bed until she falls asleep.
Help, mamas. I don't know if I did the right thing. I have never refused her nursing and I really couldn't tell if I was refusing her or helping her process her feelings around stopping to do something she has done every day of her life to this point. Also, I'd love to have some ideas for language on how to talk to her about her feelings about being done with nursing.