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#1 of 7 Old 05-06-2007, 12:15 AM - Thread Starter
 
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It made so sad. The little boy looked as though he were around 2. He was just about the same size as my son who isn't quite 2. It was time for the little boy to leave just as were just arriving and the grandmother was holding his hand as he cried out of the park. A very typical scene and I don't even look at crying kids leaving b/c I feel like it makes the parents feel like "everyone is watching" I unload my kids out the stroller and I hear the kid SCREAM! Natural reaction my head turns. He is standing between the curb and the SUV and the grandmother is pulling him by arm and scolding him.
"GET in the car!" IT's time to go" Blah blah..
So I remember things I read on here about how it would better to offer help and not criticism. So I go over and say, "Do you need some help getting him in b/c I notice you have sling on your arm" BTW..grandpa was there holding the door open and no sling on him but I figure this is the easiest way to make it seem as though I am not criticising their "Pull him in by the arm technique"
Grandma says, "No he can help" gesturing to grandpa. I told him (the little boy) it was time to go and he has to learn that he HAS to go"
In my mind I am thinking..He's gone! he's at the car. He isn't in the park anymore. She actually expected this maybe 2 year to hop up into his own car seat...and not be allowed to be upset at all that it was time to go.
I head back into the park and another mom there tells me she can't believe a GRANDMOTHER would treat her grandchild like that. Then another scream and the kid is dangling by his arm kicking and screaming and grandma says, "Stop it you are acting like a baby..get in the car"
In all honesty i have no idea if that kid could even climb into such a big car.
I was so afraid she was going to hit him I steeled up my nerve and went back over.
"You know" I say, "My son is the same way. Hates the car seat. Are you sure you wouldn't like a little help? It's kind of familiar territory for me"

"No" says grandma (not at all mean to me) "He is just being a brat"

So I say, "aww he is too little for that"
She says, "No he IS being a bratty"
then she turns to him and says, "you will never come back to the park again if you don't behave"
and I left. :

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I hate it when I see stuff like that.
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That's very sad

I think that my mother would pander to my DS letting him stay.

If I ever find out that my family calls my DS a brat or threaten to never take him back somewhere or hold him so that he's dangling by his arm .... I would go at them and seriously rethink him having alone time with them again.
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I wonder if his parents know how his GPs treat him.

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I told this story to my siblings and their partners last night.

I am glad that at this point they don't have children.

Especially the younger ones (in their early 20s) saw nothing wrong with what the grandparents did

I hope that they will learn by my example or become wise as they age and eventually become parents.
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