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#1 of 5 Old 06-22-2014, 07:09 PM - Thread Starter
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Should I wean and how to do it?

I am nursing a 14 month old who has significant GI issues that require both of us to be on a strict elimination diet. This diet consists of roughly 15 ingredients. I've been eating these foods since the beginning of April and if I make a mistake my son pays for it. We are working with a GI doctor who prefers that I wean to avoid obscuring the results of our food reintroduction process but I have continued to nurse thus far. I am getting to the point where I don't think I can continue to nurse my son for several reasons. I am thinking of getting pregnant again but don't want to be on a strict diet while pregnant. Also, I am tired of not being able to eat normally and also tired of worrying about making mistakes in my diet. I also want to have more control over my son's healing process by cutting out the nursing variable - that way we can trial foods with more clear cut answers as to how he's doing. My son is an avid nurser and nurses all day and night long. How can I gently wean him without traumatizing him? Some have suggested just going away for a weekend but I don't think I could bring myself to do this. What are other things I could do to wean him quickly? Should I even be thinking of weaning in the first place? Should I just tough it out? Are there alternatives that don't involve me eating carrot soup for dinner for the next 3 years?
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It sounds like you're very frustrated with your LO's health issues and this elimination diet. Do you feel like your health is suffering? Are you struggling with the diet? Deciding to wean is a very personal decision, and not an easy one to make. Has your doctor talked about what to give your LO in place of breastmilk? Do you feel like your doctor is otherwise breastfeeding friendly?

If you really feel that weaning is the best thing for you and for your LO, how fast does it have to happen? Could you take sort of an accelerated "gentle" approach, dropping a feeding (or two) each week? Keeping busy is one way to distract them from nursing. If you're out of the house and outside of your usual routine, they tend to forget they haven't nursed. Putting them off, not offering the breast, avoiding sitting in places where you would usually nurse, shortening the length of nursing sessions...these are some ways to do it a little more gradually, if time permits. Nights could be the most difficult. Could your partner take over the bedtime routine? This is a method for nightweaning that many people have had great success with.

It sounds like you're not comfortable with leaving your LO for a weekend. It is really important to listen to your heart and your gut on this issue, and it sounds like you are! Hopefully some of this will be helpful to you in deciding how and when to wean your little one.
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I have read an article that says the health benefits of breastfeeding a baby is only good for 6 months. But I'm thinking to do some research regarding this. Anyway, I've been breastfeeding my youngest child for almost 3 years. Weaning is really hard. Do what makes you feel comfortable and you think you won't regret by the end of the day. Good luck!

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Weaning is a very personal decision that only you can make. You have worked very hard and sacrificed to give your child a great start with the healthiest food available. You should be very proud of yourself. I'm sorry it's been such a struggle and your diet is so boring. If you do decide to wean, I think @BushMama83 had some good ideas. You can also check out the kellymom website for info on gentle weaning. They are my go to source for breastfeeding info. I would not recommend leaving for the weekend because that would be traumatic for you and your son. You could get plugged ducts or mastitis from weaning abruptly. It sounds like you do not think it's a good idea. I hope you are able to make a decision that is good for you and your child.

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I highly recommend exploring IBCLC Jennifer Tow's website or any articles she has written or the radio show she did. She has written and spoken quite a bit on healing the gut. The Cooling Inflammation website is one that she recommends. Any search will lead you straight to her. She also does Skype consults for a fee. I have no financial interest in that.
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