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Thanks for all your advice, everyone. I haven't replied to this post in a long while, but right now I just need to complain. It's 4am and I can't sleep. I've been trying to night-wean the lo, but running into problems. Last night she woke me up with trying to nurse, and I tried to get her back to sleep any other way I could, but didn't have good results. She must have cried and wailed very loudly for an hour before finally accepting the drink of water I offered her and falling asleep just before 6am. She often accepts water in the night and it helps her get back to sleep without (much) nursing. But tonight she woke up after only a few hours sleep and screamed and cried so loudly when I didn't let her nurse that my ears are still ringing. Finally I gave in because it just seemed so cruel, even though nursing no longer feels "right" to me. She often wakes up every few hours in the night wanting to nurse. Tonight, I couldn't get myself back to sleep, and when I finally started to drift off, she woke up crying again. I didn't want her to have another screaming fit, and was too tired to get up and try to comfort her some other way, so I nursed her back to sleep as quickly as I could. But now that she's asleep, here I am wide awake, muscles aching, feeling despondent and unable to sleep. I don't know why this is so difficult. My mother raised far more children than me and tells me I need to be more determined, but I don't think she's seen anything like this. Don't know what she did differently. Maybe used bottles and soothers? Maybe having another baby on the way helps the older baby/toddler to wean sooner? My first child didn't put up this much fuss, and he is the more spirited and strong-willed of the two. There seems to be nothing physically wrong with DD, she is healthy, good-natured and eats well. She doesn't nurse during the day, as long as I don't sit down when she's nearby (in which case she'll jump on my lap and try to push up my shirt). But she wakes several times in the night, crying and needing "mama milk" to settle her back down. My sleep is disrupted and I don't like the feeling of nursing anymore, most of the time. But I also give in to her demands to nurse in the night. It's so much nicer to see her soothed and sleeping peacefully, even if I'm uncomfortable. And yet, I want to give my own body a chance to rest and restore. I feel so torn, and run down, and I wonder where I'm going wrong.
Nazmum, your emoticon looks a lot like my situation!
Maybe this is just a passing situation?
EDIT: I'd like to add that I don't seem to have a supply issue (I check periodically, and yes, I'm still producing). Part of me is reluctant to give up producing milk. I love being able to nourish my child with my own milk, especially if she gets sick. And breastfeeding is healthy for both of us. But the other part of me is tired of not being able to get up from a chair or sleep in a better position at night because she is nursing.
Last edited by head4thehills; 11-28-2016 at 02:14 AM.