To all -
Thanks so much for the advice! Yes, thank goodness for the internet. I can't talk to anyone i know about this, cus somehow it always gets back to her.
I think it is crappy that she tells me i am stupid for cloth diapering. When she raised her kids, they lived in South America, and cloth diapers were all they had, an she loves to tell me how her kids all had diaper rash so severe their skin cracked and bled. Of course she says its all the cloth diapers' fault. I say, just change your baby more often.
My son has been in cloth for 5 months and has never had more than occasional mild redness. She also said it was a huge mistake to want a homebirth. Of course, i didnt end up with a homebirth, i got an emergency c-section, but thats another post entirely.
Sphinx, i admire you for putting up with your MIL babysitting your kid.I couldn't do it!
I made the mistake of telling her i was planning to nurse my son until about the age of 2, and she was horrified
. When i am at work one night a week DH watches him, and gives him frozen pumped milk. His mom sees DH carefully defrosting the milk, warming it, and she tells him its silly go to to all that trouble, just give him formula. Thankfully, DH knows that i would absolutely murder him if he gave formula to my baby. I still have the upper hand with that, at least!
My husband is a great guy and he defers to me in most of my AP stuff, since before we had the baby he didnt really have an opinion about parenting stuff. Its just when his mom is actually around that he thinks he has to defer to her. Thank goodness its not that often!
I have cited the Dr. Sears books often. I also have a wonderful Ped., who encourages us to breastfeed as long as we see fit, to cosleep, to AP, and to wear the baby. She's old as the hills, which makes my MIL think she's wise, so when i get into a debate with her i just cite the Ped.
I can't thank you all enough for letting me get this off my chest! I feel so much better today.
Well, time to go crawl into bed with baby for a sleepy nursie. You all are the best!