Originally Posted by Mariana Rivas
if you don't give her all day attention she doesn't let you do anything neither respects the time her father and I need to have as a couple,
I don't understand. This is a child who doesn't live with you. How much time do you need "as a couple" while she is with you? I truly don't get this. I'm all for couples nurturing their relationships, but most of the time, you guys have zero kids living with you. What time does she go to bed? Most 6 year olds are in bed very early.
My advice is to involve her with the business of running your home, preparing meals, taking care of plants and animals, etc. This is very basic parenting advice. Rather than trying to keep her busy while you do what needs to be done, have her help you and teach her how to do things. This lets her get attention without being the center of attention.
Also, while she is there, plan some times when you are out and Daddy and Daughter can have some time just the two of them. Go to lunch with a friend, or go get a mani pedi. Have your own life, not just around your bf.
One of my parenting secrets when my kids were little was to make play dough with them. It's super easy, and kids really enjoy this. Then, they have new playdough, which is super fun. Put together a little kit for her with a rolling pen, cookie cutters, etc. This is a nice activity because you do something with the child, and then they are set up to do something on their own.
Also, put on kid friendly music. It helps set the tone for the space. When my kids were little, they were more settled with something like Raffi on in the background rather than the TV or adult music.
Too many toys makes it HARDER for kids to play, not easier. Organizer her space very neatly before she gets there -- since you has a lot of toys you may need to box a bunch of them up and just leave a few open ended ones that look inviting. Have a schedule and a routine. This is super important -- you can even write it down for her, and use simple pictures to help her understand it.
Stop blaming her mother for things. It doesn't matter. You don't control it. It is letting your mind focus on blaming rather than on trouble shooting the situation. Focus on the parts of this that you can control, and let go of the rest. ALL children do better in an organized space with a plan, and right now, you don't have either or those things (I can tell her toys aren't organized because you are focused on how many she has).