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I never planned to do this, but somehow when my kids get a boo boo it sometimes gets a kiss. I never said "should I kiss it and make is better" but I guess because when they get hurt and come to me I hold them and kiss them. I guess my actions sent that message because sometimes my ds1 will ask me to kiss his boo boo, and sometimes he will kiss it himself. Curious what everyone else does and why, and also for those who don't how would you handle it if your child was asking you to kiss their boo boo or kissing it themselves?
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I used to kiss DD's boo boos until, at 2.5 she said to me "Mommy, that doesn't even HELP!"

I do kiss DS's, but more just to distract him from the pain, like "Well, then, I better KISS YOU ALL OVER!!!" then snuggle, snuggle, snuggle, yk?

I don't really see it as a big deal.
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Yes, I have always kissed boo boos. When my kids are little they ask me to kiss them, my older two no longer ask me to. My youngest will kiss them himself too. To me it was just natural to comfort them by kissing boo boos and I've never really thought about it. Is there a movement against it now?

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Absolutely! It works really well too, he is magically better right after I kiss it. I don't see anything wrong with it at all, at least for babies and toddlers. Now if you're talking about a teenager or something, then it might be a little weird.

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I guess I do most of the time -- I never really thought about it. I don't really see a reason to consciously try not to.

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no movement that I know of, was just curious what others thought, its always interesting to hear insight from the ladies here Personally I dont want to add "and make it better" because I don't want them to feel like it "has" to be better because I kissed it. so, if I think that way - maybe some people have reasons they wouldn't offer to kiss it at all?

sometimes my son gets a boo boo and I ask him "should I kiss, or are you gonna kiss it?" and he doesn't seem to have a preference. sometimes he picks me, sometimes he does it himself. lol
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I do. I don't automatically do it at this point, but he'll come up and ask me to kiss it. How can I say "No"? If a kiss from mommy makes it better, then I have infinite kisses to give.
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I kiss boo boos. I also allow use of band-aids for boo boos that don't really need them.
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I kiss ds's boo-boos, and it works magically well for him (although I have to get the *exact* spot, and we sometimes have to give it a few tries while he say "No, not there. HERE!" lol

I did not kiss dd's boo-boos when she was smaller. I couldn't touch her or her boo-boos when she was hurt, let alone kiss them. Being able to make ds's boo-boos better with a kiss is much, much easier on both of us!
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I do it, not sure why or how it even started. DD pretty much demands it now, though. I was on the phone with my grandma once and DD fell on her butt. She came up to me saying, "Kiss my butt! Kiss my butt!" My grandma about lost her mind wanting to know who taught her to say that. She thought it was pretty hilarious once I explained it though.
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that is too funny!!! awe, how cute is that!
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yep. I kiss theirs and they kiss mine. Even my 4.5 and 5.5 year olds still ask.

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I love it when they kiss their own boo boos. I think it's a great way to distract them from getting all worked up about their boo boos. I've had to really convince them that band-aids are only for bloody boo boos, though. Band-aid are expensive, especially when my LO's are insisting on getting the charicter ones. But as soon as they see blood, they are super excited about getting that band-aid!

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Nope. Having an injury, no matter how slight, touched, no matter how gently, does not appeal to me ds.

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I tried with ds, but he was utterly unimpressed, so that stopped quickly. The magic definitely works with dd, though. My favorite was probably the time I had to kiss her tongue after she accidentally bit it.

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I do. I've been amazed at how quickly it distracts DS from the pain of an injury. I'd rather dole out a kiss and have him move on to more learning/fun than not and have him spend five minutes crying. As a mama, I have a limited number of years in which I have the power to make things "all better." I'm going to make the most of that power while I still have it!

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I do it. It is just something that has kinda creeped in.

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All the time. DD asks me for a kiss and now she'll kiss my boo boos.
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I do it all the time, and always have...but only with my sons, until recently. DD doesn't want people anywhere near her when she's hurt. She wants to bolt off and find some privacy. She's always been like that, but seems to be more willing to accept comfort as she gets older.

I started doing it right from the beginning, because I always loved the magic of mom (or occasionally dad) kissing my "boo-boos". They did feel better...every time that I can remember.

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Of course!

Why not? It's magic.
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Yep, I kiss them. Then I ask, is that better? And usually it is and Abigail says so. If not, she just wants me to hold her longer until she feels better. They come running up to me if they get hurt and Abigail is very picky about me kissing the exact right spot(s). She's so OCD in so very many ways. Her dad bought her princess bandaids one day. She got addicted to bandaids because of that. I have explained to her what they're for and she has since learned when one needs a bandaid or not.

Sophia just runs up and body slams me to tell me she got hurt, wipes her nose on my shoulder if she's been crying, tells me she got an owie, gives me a very dramatic sad face, I hug and kiss her and then she runs off, the whole thing completely forgotten.

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No.
Dd does not like to be hugged or kissed. If she is injured I am lucky if I even get to see the injury.

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Pretty much every injury must either be kissed (bumps) or have milk sprayed on it (cuts and scrapes). He's 23 months.
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We don't this. We don't call them boo-boos either.

My in laws apply Band Aids to boo-boos. This drives me nuts. I'd like the kids to learn what band aids are actually for.

We do distract the kids as needed, just in other ways.

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Dam, I am 42 and my mom still wants to kiss my Boo Boo's. ....lol
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I do it (it's always been just instinctive) and DD (age 2) expects it, even demands it.

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yep, but we call them owies. we use ice packs prolifically as well

TLC is very effective treatment for most bumps and bruises-- emotional or physical!
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I used to kiss DD's boo boos until, at 2.5 she said to me "Mommy, that doesn't even HELP!"

I do kiss DS's, but more just to distract him from the pain, like "Well, then, I better KISS YOU ALL OVER!!!" then snuggle, snuggle, snuggle, yk?

I don't really see it as a big deal.
ditto.

And now our son will kiss our boo boos if we hurt ourselves in front of him. He will also pat our back and ask us "are you okay?" with a concerned look on his face.

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No. Of course my children are older but I never did when they were little. My mother always used to say, "kiss it better", ie do it yourself. I have to say, little boos boos aren't, and never have been, much of a big deal in our house. Obviously, a hurt and distressed child is always comforted, but small cuts, bangs and grazes tend to pass without fuss.

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Of course!

Why not? It's magic.
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TLC is very effective treatment for most bumps and bruises-- emotional or physical!
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We do here, although we've had a couple of funnies, like a PP mentioned requesting a kiss on the tongue or the eyeball. "Daddy, kiss my butt!" was my favorite after DS had a hard landing on an unforgiving toy truck. And a co-worker had a hilarious story about her three year old requesting a boo-boo kiss after accidentally snapping his privates with the elastic waistband of his underwear. Try to explain that to a toddler!

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