What are your thoughts on sharing a joint bank account with your wife?
It seems that many conservative Christian men with happy marriages say that itâ€™s best to live as one unit and that you shouldnâ€™t be living with your property separately partitioned. That is not the way to have a successful and happy marriage. It should be â€śourâ€ť bank account. Mark Driscoll talks about this. If you donâ€™t trust your wife and are constantly trying to keep property separate from her, then the marriage isnâ€™t likely to succeed. If the property isnâ€™t joined, the couple isnâ€™t likely to stay joined.
On the other hand, the Red Pill community seems to understand a womanâ€™s true nature. They say women like being subjugated. Women really canâ€™t be trusted with money. I have heard so many horror stories about men getting screwed over by divorce courts. If you have a marriage license and she wants to divorce you, and you have a separate bank account, she will eventually be able to get to your bank account even if itâ€™s separate, but it will take a while; she wonâ€™t be able to access it immediately, and will have more trouble paying a divorce lawyer up front. If the wife has access to your bank account, she can just take a bunch of money and then just run off with the kids. So it can accelerate a divorce. If you donâ€™t have a marriage license, and you have sole access to your bank account, and youâ€™re in a state that doesnâ€™t recognize common law marriage or palimony, then the man is in an even better position. She wonâ€™t be able to touch your bank account. I am thinking that it may be better to just give your wife an allowance instead of sharing the bank account. An allowance could allow her to buy the items she needs, like groceries, household items, womenâ€™s clothing, kidsâ€™ items, etcâ€¦ Denying your wife access to your bank account doesnâ€™t mean you donâ€™t love her; that is like saying you donâ€™t love your 9-year-old child because you wonâ€™t let your child access your bank account. There are so many temptations and inducements for women offered by our legal system and our culture, and so much dishonesty or silence about that system, that in todayâ€™s world it may be wiser to just keep a separate bank account. It may be better to just let her know that you're in charge, you're the boss, and you'll make sure she's taken care of.