My kids are very different!
My son, Gary (12) is intense, tempermental, extremely sensitive, stubborn, tense, impulsive and introverted, but extremely needy. He's such a wonderful child, but he's extremely high needs. He's like me, only to the 10th power.
My little girl, Katherine (7) is an easygoing, laid back, forgiving, goes with the flow kind of girl. Sometimes she's too "good". A spitting image of my Husband, in every way.
I'm still working on managing both their needs. I've noticed that they tend to play off of eachother- Gary will get in trouble for, say, jumping over the couch, and Katherine will sit there and say something like, "I would NEVER do that, right?" I ALWAYS walk around and you NEVER have to remind ME.", in which case, Gary will get all the more frustrated and throw a tantrum. I remember my sister doing the same with me. Has this happened with your children?
I pray for the day Family Court recognizes that CHILDREN have rights, parents only have PRIVILEGES. Only then, will I know my child is safe.