so, dd1 is going through the crazy 3.5's. seh is usually good, she is learning that the world doesn't revolve around her and it can be hard. she really really really tries to make the world revolve around her and to control everythign, but, obviously she can't. we talk a lot about how we can't control the world, other people, etc=that we can only control ourselves and how we react to the others. but, she does lose it soemtimes and has a big temper tantrum. whenever i try to be loving and listen and talk her through, she gets worse and worse and worse. but when i have a "suck it up" attitude about it and just say, literally-"buck up sweetie, sometimes life is hard" then she calms down and is fine. ??????
i feel really bad about it. but it is the only thing that works for me. with dh he plays little jokes with her and snaps her out of it. but she doesn't really respond to that with me. and honestly i don't have much patience for the tantrums. so i like to nip it in the bud anyway....but i feel really bad. laying down the law works, but it isn't very GD and i feel weird doing it. is this "normal"?