I was just going to post on this today....
Two months or so ago, my dd (then still 2) went thru a period of fighting physically with this 5 yo boy *every time* they got together. She started many of these fights, and both were very happy to duke it out (seemed to enjoy it
: ). This kid is SO much bigger than her! But she was not intimidated.
The other mom was super, and we kept working on it--each from the view point of our own child's age/size/etc...and now they play well together......
BUT.....now 3 yo, she has begun to pick fights with a 4 yo boy! (who is as big as the other 5 yo!). She will play gently with EVERYONE else at the playgroup, but gives him NO slack. Anything he does (and, to be honest, he does provoke her a bit--takes her toys, etc), is answered with a full-body-check. And then the rumble begins. She NEVER asks for--or wants--help. Gets really angry when I make them stop fighting--even when she is clearly outsized! I swear, this child has ALL of her father's genes and none of mine--I've never had guts like that--and kinda envy her, really :LOL
What gets me the most is that I really feel that she is seeking out these physical battles. Seeking out the competition--she even yells "I got him that time!" when she gets an upper edge. THis is not a child exposed to commercial tv or violent computer games--although she does love acting out the "battles" in the Lion King. We also discuss these behaviors (fighting) in calm moments, and role play better ways to handle physical confrontation, etc....but the yesterday during one such conversation she said, "But Mom, I'm a Fighting-Girl!"
What the heck am I supposed to do with a "fighting-girl"?