Defiant, angry 4 year old
I need some major help with my 4 year old DD. Our problems are not new, but at the moment things seem totally out of control. I'll start with an example: Over the weekend my 4 month old stopped sleeping in the swing, her only out of arms sleep. Now I'm in a difficult transition trying to get her to nap without me so my DD doesn't have to be alone so much. It's not going well and has been a rough week, especially housebound by snow. This morning I set up ODD with a show so I could give YDD a good nap. 10 minutes along ODD comes crashing through the door telling me there's a problem with her show. I tell her she can switch to the iPad, but I can't fix the TV right now. She starts to scream about how she neeeeeds her show. I tell her she needs to leave the room because the baby's trying to nap. She screams more (No, I CAN'T!! I'll only cry more if I can't watch my show!!!). Baby wakes up. DD says good, now you can help me. I say no, when you freak out over TV, TV time is over. She loses it, shrieking, hitting at me, etc. I turn off the TV and bring her to her room to escape the hitting. A few minutes later she's calmer and I go in to talk to her about how she may not come in the napping room unless it's an emergency, and about how being angry is okay, but she can't hurt people. She tests me with a hit. I leave. She smashes a toy with her foot and shrieks. Proceeds to be nasty/rude/irritating the rest of the morning. Tells me I started it because I turned off the TV, etc. Long story , but this is pretty much how she behaves lately. Constantly defiant and rude punctuated by epic tantrums. And wakes up the poor baby every. Single.time she tries to sleep. I feel like the world's worst mother. Apparently I've created a monster. Help!