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As83 06-02-2018 05:23 PM

Adult stepchild moved back home
 
My stepson moved back home a few months ago and it’s causing chaos in my home. He is lazy and doesn’t ever help out but his dad does not want to kick him out. I have 3 other children at home ages 7,9, and 10 and lately the stepson has been trying to discipline them. At first it was time outs when they were fighting which was okay with me but now it seems as though he is taking out his frustration on my youngest daughter and wants to put her in time out and take things away from her when she gets on his nerves or does things as simple as talk too loud. I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on adult children disciplining younger children before I talk to him and my husband. I wanted to make sure I wasn’t letting my own frustration with the stepson cloud my judgement on what to do. Thanks

lauren 06-03-2018 05:25 PM

In my opinion only parents should discipline children, unless you have asked them to be in a caregiving role. This would be your husband's responsibility to talk with him and let him know this is inappropriate. He is their brother. Most likely he has some opinions about how the two of you, and most likely you, are handling things, and has decided to express it this way. Do you guys have family meetings? I would stop this and if things are not going well in terms of setting limits with the younger kids, get some help for that as soon as you can.


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