I will finally take (I think it was) Ms. Mom's advice and start a TCS thread.
Taking Children Seriously is a non-coercive education and parenting philosophy that was founded approximately a decade ago by Sarah Lawrence, with significant contributions to the discussion by David Deutsch and Kolya Wolf. The paper journal 'Taking Children Seriously', the internet 'TCS list', and the website www.TCS.ac
are the main places where the discussion continues. The quest (as I understand it) is to come as close to the truth as possible, about these theories of non-coercive education and parenting.
A brief quote from the website:
"We believe that it is possible and desirable to bring up children entirely without coercion (i.e. without doing things to them against their will, or making them do things against their will), and that children are entitled to the same rights, respect and control over their lives as adults.
We are critical rationalists, fallibilists and libertarians. "
When first encountered, TCS is often confused with laissez faire parenting, or neglect; it is neither of those. It is not simply about not coercing. It is about creating a happy life for one's self and one's loved ones, actively living in ways that avoid coercion.
We can recognize the theories and memes that we are programmed with, that keep us believing that coercion is necessary in this case or that case, and deconstruct them in an effort to get closer to the truth about any particular subject that is giving us trouble. Discussions like those here can help tremendously, in understanding one's theories and the practicalities of living a TCS lifestyle. Lets have at it
Respectfully, of course, discussing the theories and not particular children, if you please.