Originally Posted by 4evermom
If I were to have limits, it would be based on entire episodes, not minutes.
This may not be the kind of response your looking for. We are pretty melow about t.v. here. Meaning that during the week the boys can watch tv after lunch if their book work (homeschooling) is done. Untill 5:30, when the tv goes off. They usually watch a few showes a day, sometimes none.
We have tivo and all the channels are locked out except the 2 PBS channels and a few other shows mom and dad o.k.. Tivo Kidzone is great, you can allow certin shows and block others. Way better than the regular rating blocks.
Like you mentioned, it sounds like your son is very upset with you. My first thought was discussing and leting him negotiate the shows (within a set of shows I o.k.) he wants to watch. If he was asking to watch things way too old for him I would stick with no, but offer more age approprate shows.
It sounds like he wants some controll over the tv. Is there a way you can give him that?
It sounds like you have a great relationship with your son, his anger could be mostly hurt because this is so important to him, and to him you may seem unwilling to compromise. As a parent that is totally your call. But I have found it gets harder as they get older. They start to have more firm beliefs as to what they want.
Fair warning is important when it comes to turning of the tv. Same thing with everything we do. 10 min and 5 min warnings. I would never try to turn it off in the middle of a show, or after 5 min, that would be tourture for them.
A friend of mine just had a situation where there was tv in the house for the first time and her 6yo had a very hard time with turning it off and she realised it had to do with the "comming up next, it's ????". The small anouncement they stick in at the end credits to hook the kids into the show on next. PBS dose this all the time. Once her son heard that he would feal he needed to see the next show. After a while he got used to that, and was able to ajust.
Growing pains are hard, good luck.