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Mommy to kids
From the reviews:
"Dr. Leman describes pulling the rug out from under the little buzzards. If a child begins whining about dinner, then simply throw dinner down the garbage disposal and excuse the child from the table."
"The overall strategies in this book have some clout, but the overwhelming religious preaching is a nuisance at best. Leman assumes everyone is religious and everyone who is religious is Christian. Constantly quoting the New Testament as if it were a Christian Bible class is a huge turn off in this book. Not to mention his blanket approval of spanking as long as you say you love them afterwards...."
"Although this book is well written and has excellent advice, I was put off by all the scripture quoting and references to "Our Heavenly Father". Also, I could not get past the fact that he condones spanking. "
Of course, it's always hard to know if the reviewers even read it!
We took a Sunday school class on this at our church... And while he may have had a few useful tips (I think that there was something we took away from it and actually used, though at the moment I can't remember what) all-in-all it is NOT remotely GD in my opinion. In the video lessons, I think he only briefly mentioned spanking (but he did condone it) and I don't remember things being physically oriented otherwise, so it's not as bad as it could be I guess. But it REALLY was not gentle in nature...even in the small little comments he'd make it was clear he wanted fear based obedience (think more like a somewhat gentler approach to being domineering, still very control based just less aggressive). I think he briefly skirted around suggesting allowing children to face natural consequences at one point; but suggested imposing your own consequences and punishments more often. He stressed praising them which he contrasted to nit-picking to build their esteem and so on and so on.
There were some occasional jewels of usefulness, but not anything you couldn't probably find/learn elsewhere. The book might have been a bit different than the video seminars, but I imagine attending a seminar would have been pretty similar to the videos. I'm not sure I'd say it is religious because I found it a little irreverent, but...he does talk about the New Testment a lot and often uses the Bible as "proof" his method is what God wants us to do etc. So it'd probably be offputting... Plus he tried to hard to be funny.
I say if you feel saying no would be too rude, to tell the inlaws you'll check the book out of the library instead of going to the seminar. (That way you can skip past offensive stuff easier.) But I'd politely pass.
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