Originally Posted by mamaduck
Can you give some specific examples of misbehavior? What are some commong "bad choices" that she makes on a regular basis?
I think it might help me to be constructive if I had some concrete examples.
Irritating/tormenting the cat (the cat sees her and runs, she cries because she wants the cat to be her best friend. Yet, she can't /won't apply any lessons learned).
Not listening. Continuing to do things even though she's been told 3, 4, 5, 600 times not to do it. What it really comes down to is this. Not listening. Not being able to stay at the table and eat breakfast in the morning, or lunch or dinner etc.
The reason I give to her about why she absolutely *must* listen is safety. Suppose she's about to step in front of a bus, I need to know that if I yell "Claire!" that she will stop when she hears me call.
Right now that is what I am trying to work with most. That when she hears me call her name, her response should be stop what she's doing and answer me to find out why I've called her. I mean, we live in the tropics and there are all sorts of safety issues including poisonous snakes, poisonous spiders, etc.
But, she doesn't so it escalates into Claire. Claire. Claire. Claire.Claire! Claire!Claire!!
"what?" I can't always get up and go over to where she is and interrupt what she's doing because of the baby. I just need her to answer me, and at least make an effort to remember the rules.
If it were once or twice a day it would be different, but this has devolved into her constantly being into something she's not supposed to be into, and why I feel like I'm constantly riding her.
I mean, what do I do here? Put up a chart a la Super Nanny and give her stickers when she remembers a rule and chooses a desirable over an undesirable behavior? Accentuate the positive.
Ideally I would like to have more time for fun with her. But, DH is away most of the week because we are in full coffee harvest, I have 5.5 month old DS, translation work, and the housework.
thanks for your suggestions!