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#1 of 6 Old 03-06-2008, 11:36 PM - Thread Starter
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My year old child is constantly hitting, biting, grabbing, pinching. He doesn't seem to do it when he is angry exactly, just whenever and whoever. I tell him no and try to encourage gentle behavior but really he doesn't seem to get it at all. I am wondering if there is any advice from BTDT moms? Any causes you found?(foods, environment) Anyone whose child was similar and outgrew it? --i am having visions of a preschooler bully here Just today he has started biting me when he is nursing which is no fun! I have managed to stop him so far on that count but i am really starting to worry it is something I am doing. Ds1 was not like this.....

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bump in case it got buried....I would appreciate any advice

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He is 1.

They all love to do large motor movements. Stay out of the way of their flailing and striking. He's advanced. Usually, hitting (swing the arm with purposeful impact) doesn't start until about 15 months.

You might get him one of those pounding boards. Also squishy balls and other textured objects are delightful alternatives to pinch. Keep the cats away! Kids this age love to grab them. Oh, and hair! Ouch. This too will pass.

Chew toys for the biting.


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Babies and toddlers have no idea how strong they are. He isn't aggressive - just grabbing for stuff and reaching for stuff without knowing he can hurt people. It's never to early to say "gentle touch" and at the same time gently touch him to start him learning that it's possible to touch gently, but it's too early for him to be able to control it. Anyway, he'll outgrow it.

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thank you!

i read your replies w/relief......i didn't realize how much i was blaming myself until i read your responses. nice to know it is completely normal!
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Perfectly normal!!
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