I had a response typed out but my DH decided to surf and surfed away while I was getting a drink.
There are a few different ways to handle what it sounds like you're having issues with. It really depends on what is most important to you.
|Sometimes I feel like I need to just push DS away, because my skin is crawling and I can't stand the feeling.
I was having a lot of frustration about the night nursing "feeling" but didn't feel my DD was ready to go cold turkey and nightwean. She's 18 months old, so obviously its not a nutrition issue, but I wasnt comfortable taking away her source of comfort in a way that was unpleasant to her. What I have done, and I'm sure there are those that think this is terrible, is introduce a bottle as a type of comfort. It took a couple of months to wean completely, but none of it was painful and if she was ever inconsolable via a warm bottle of toddler 'formula' I would breastfeed. She now goes to sleep completely on her own with a bottle for both naps and night time, and when she does wake up, I give her a bottle that I have ready by the bed (cold formula now) and she will drink some and go back to sleep. Sometimes lately she doesn't even need that, just wakes up, finds me, cuddles up and goes back to sleep. On that cue from her, we're gradually nightweaning now by me rubbing her back for a moment before I grab the bottle, to give her the opportunity to fall back to sleep (a moment though just to see if she will, not a minute or 2 or 3... not enough for my DH to wake from sleep is my rule of thumb) I'm sure it will take a few more months to completely nightwean her, but its been very easy for us this way, so its not really a rush thing.
I'm sure there are faster ways to wean or get babe to sleep through the night, but this is what worked for us. It was important that I didn't cause my DD discomfort, and this technique really did that for us, while allowing me to get much more sleep (DD originally would sleep on the nipple, which really made my skin crawl trying to go to sleep) Also, she doesnt need the bottle nearly as long as she needed to bf, and is generally content to drink a little bit, curl up against me, and then fall asleep.