GRR, I hit a wrong button and my post poofed!
Anyway. My intact boy is 14.5 years old. I did not want my boy circ'd, but I left it up to his father, who I finally split with 2 years after my son was born. The father said "leave him the way Nature made him", though the father was circumcised.
He was born emergency C-section in a hospital. The doctor who signed our release papers recommended circumcision. Because my son's pee-hole did not match up with the foreskin hole, and while my boy was medically fine (he could pee without problems), the doctor thought he might have retraction/sexual issues when that time came. What gave me pause was this doctor had 3 intact sons and he did not think, usually, that circ was a good idea. But he did say that my son could have circ done as an office visit, 3 years down the road, if any problems arose.
I said I'd wait.
My son found his "toy" around 8 months old. It was pretty much fully retractable by age 3, and I decided not to have him circ'd. I figured he could have that done later, if he chose.
He is super happy he is intact. He thinks it's barbaric to cut people's body parts off, especially without permission.
He and his first girlfriend just broke up-- in 8th grade, they had a long (for 8th grade) time together-- almost 6 months. They did not have intercourse, but they did other things, and she was apparently pretty enthusiastic about those other things, from what he said to me. Which means Not Grossed Out by a foreskin.
It's easy to care for. When ds was little, if it hurt, which it occasionally did...like I'm sure that on plenty of occasions, he got like one grain of sand in there-- he sat in a couple inches of lukewarm water for awhile, in the tub. Almost always took care of the problem. I think I had to put Neosporin on there once or twice, but forgot why.
Yes, from what I understand, the glans of the penis is supposed to be a mucous membrane, like the inside of the mouth, or the vagina. The foreskin is its protection. That's why the circumcised penis-head is harder and not wet-looking, because it doesn't have its covering anymore, and toughens up.
My boy is 14 now, like I said, and he's fine and happy and retractable. I ain't getting down there to see if stinky, even if he'd let me, LOL! But he knows how to clean. No soap, OW, just rinse in the water.
Oh, and as for looking like dad: They aren't a set of matching china. Tell the boy when he's asking questions that know better, do better. Dad can say that when he was a baby, he had that surgery, but dad decided to let the boy decide for himself when he gets older.
I'm also of the mind that it's not any of your brother's business. At all. He should find out what state the baby's penis is in only if he is changing a diaper! THEN he can ask questions