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My DH has taken to calling me "Mother." I know a lot of people would think it's sweet and once in a while it's cute, but lately it drives me nuts.

I'm not *his* mother!

Am I crazy/silly/totally non-maternal to find this so terribly annoying?


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I don't think it's bad that it annoys you, but I would be honest with him and tell him you'd prefer that he not call you that. That would be better than being frustrated about it!
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I agree with Larissa - I'd tell him.

It would annoy me too! Especially mother. I don't know why, sweet mama or something would be lovey-like, but mother would just irk me. Maybe you can joke that if he keeps calling you that, he'll owe you one heck of a "Mother's Day" present, and not just the baby!
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That would bug me, especially because that's what my dad calls his 96 year old mother. So it would just make me feel old!

If you don't like it then you should let him know.

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Tell him, but keep in mind he probably thinks it's sweet, so be gentle.

My DH calls me that too, but it doesn't bother me bacause his mother lives with us, and he has never once called her that. So for him the association is not there, and it's just a funny pet name. Always makes me feel a little Amish or something.
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It would annoy me, and yes I would tell him. Being open and honest is always the best way to go, be gentle and just let him know it bugs you. "Mother" always bugs me, I don't mind mommy though, when it's done with affection
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Yes, that would bug me. I also don't mind when he calls me mom or mommy when our little ones are with us- usually he only calls me that because it has something to do with them though.
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yes! i HATE Mother! momma fine but mother something about it just irks me!
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Wow! Thanks so much, Mommas!

I was worried I was being hormonal or mean. I felt really bad asking him to stop at first, bc he was trying so hard to be sweet and endearing.

I think if he didn't call his own mom "mother" or "dear little mother" I *might* feel differently, but it was really driving me crazy, and he didn't seem to get it when I told him to stop at first (he does now). We're sticking to regular pet names or just "Mom," "Mommy" or perhaps "Super Mommy."


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I like "super mommy"! I wouldn't mind my husband calling me that!
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I wouldn't like mother either. Dh calls me 'the mama' which I don't mind.

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Dh and I have called each other mommy and daddy with our dogs for so long and I don't mind. But if you do mind I think you should say something. I'm sure he doesn't mean to offend and wants to find something that you will think is sweet.
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Everything annoys me these days...lol. Just tell him. He shouldn't get mad over that.
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Mother would annoy me too. That's what I call my mom when she is really bothering me! Usually she's just Ma or Mom.

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I wouldn't like mother either. Dh calls me 'the mama' which I don't mind.
That's funny. Huz calls me "the wife." As in, "goodmorning, the wife!"

But yeah, mother would bother me too...my grandparents call each other mother and father, and their relationship is such that it almost seems spiteful. So Mother would have a bad feeling for me. Just let him know.

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I find spouses referring to their partner as "mother' or 'father' to be really creepy! We only do it when we are having a conversation for the sake of our ds, but not between ourselves!

Can you suggest Wondrous Goddess as an alternative?
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DDC crashing here... this thread made me laugh. ^_^

I'm due in April and DP tenderly called me "Mother Bear" one evening. I totally bawled and begged him never to say that again. I said next time he wants to call me an animal name, make it something not quite so large, hairy, and lumbering.

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Oh! DS and I have been reading a lot of Little Bear and Little Brown Bear lately, so Mother Bear sounds very sweet to me. Both of those mother bears are resourceful, capable, practical, and extremely nurturing.

Plus, my fantasy is to give birth like a bear: big, strong, roaring, and in the woods. (ok, that last part isn't going to happen, but it's just a fantasy)

Mother would bug the heck out of me. I would never allow it.
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