I just read this and now I am even more SCARED!!!
I did not know that it's this hard to get the exemption
in NY State. This is why I feel like moving away from NY.
My DH cannot stop pressuring me about DD starting school
ASAP. So, we went for this orientation in our neighborhood's
Montessori school. I liked it, but for some reason my inner
voice keeps telling me that it won't be the right one for my
DD.... Anyway, once the tour finished I waited for the other
2 mothers to leave and asked the director about the exemption.
Her face had changed immidiately, she said that she wasn't
sure if they can take my daughter without her up to date shots.
She also said that she would call the NYS DOH because she is
positive that they've changed the exemption laws for NY State
just recently. But she told us that they got more STRICT!!!
I told her I didn't hear about this, and it's true I wasn't lying to
her. She promised to call us back by Friday (which is today),
but NO calls from her as yet. I have this strange feeling about
her, rather not being botherd to even find out, so they would
not have to deal with their first unvax child in their school.
But either way I am still very scared. We will have to keep looking
for a school for DD, so as I read about the "they might call you in
for an interview" just to explain my religious beliefs....hm, now that
I would screw up for sure. I am a person who is always afraid to
talk to people, because I know I make huge mistakes, esp. when
I know that the person I am talking to is "evaluating" me...my native
language isn't English and I know I get very nervous when I have to
talk with someone who's out of my "comfort zone". I'd mess up that
interview, I just know. But there's NO WAY on Earth that I'd let
anyone, in any circumstances pressure me into vaccinating my DD!
She is PURE and I won't let anything spoil that. But then DH is telling
me that he'll take her himself to the doc., so she would get all her
shots and be able to attend school, just like other NORMAL kids.
( he's very pro-vax, so it's been a rough journey so far to convince
him that DD will be just fine, actually, much better off without the
shots, that "normal" kids receive )
What should I do???? It's like someone keeping me in darkness, so I
can't see. Because I am new to this, did not have to deal with the
exemption issue before, but seems like there's no way I will escape
it. I am just scared that it'll come to a nasty ending, since I am a person
who chose not to vax because it's very unnatural, also if I think about it
hard enough than I realize that it is against my religion, so vaccines
just won't ever fit into my "circle of beliefs". I won't allow them for my DD!
Can anyone, please anyone, help me through this journey? To be there
to guide me and give me advice, support, to get the exemption?LongIsland
, you simply blow my mind away, each time I read your posts
it's like I'm wondering if you are "the walking, talking vax-info Bible!?"
Could YOU, please be my guide? I've done my part of reading on vaccinations,
but I couldn't defend myself if someone (like a doc.) would start questioning
me why I'm not vaxing....I know this is crazy, but I don't like to get into
arguments because I get so heated that all the English words I've learnt
so far tend to leave my brain
and I'm ready to speak my language.
I'd rather do this the calm way. And I need to come out of this as the winner.
Please, help me mamas!
Kristina(29) mama to Jasmine(4) -